"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Whats up with this chick?

salsipuedes

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So i have been dating this chick for two months now, when we first started dating i tought she was very interested and on the second date i went in for a kiss, she didnt stop me but the kiss was awkward to say the least, she told me she wanted to "take it slow and see where this went", so i was definately turned off by this but kept dating her and i took it slow as well, so anyways, we where talking yesterday and she tells me she thinks we should "speed things up" obviously saying she wants us to be a couple, but i am in no hurry anymore and don't know if i should take my time or plan something special to close the deal.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Nothings wrong with her, its you who has the problem.
Believe it or not its possible to bone a chick the same night she dribbles "I think we should take this slow". What has anything this chick SAYS got to do with you?

And here we have you actually giving her reality substance. Thus your here 2 months later questioning yourself wondering what the fvck is going and still yet to tap this chick.

You see the dangers of LISTENING to women?
 

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i have a lot of questions for you...

"close the deal?" what the hell are you talking about? man you're not buying an SUV, you're supposed to be dating this woman and *enjoying your time with her. just so you know, when a woman wants to 'take it slow,' generally she's holding out for another guy to see what will happen...though there are exceptions, i don't think this was one. you're definitely second place. maybe now that she wants to "speed things up" (toward what? i have no idea what this means), it's because she's ACTUALLY HAPPY with you? what happens when the other guy finally gets off the fence?
your decision -- yes, it's YOUR decision -- whether you should get into a relationship with this women should be totally based on how you feel about her, and how good of a woman she is FOR YOU. it sounds to me like she's been giving you mixed signals, and generally acting flaky since you've been dating. has this woman done anything to *earn a relationship with you?
 

salsipuedes

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smoke city,

Your right, i have been dating her but so far she hasnt grown on me yet, at first i was very into her but as time has passed iam not completely sure if i want to get serious with her, she has been flaky, and yes, that has made me take things slow, but so far i am not completely sure about her, and i want to take it slow to see where this goes.
 

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Sounds like she toyed with you a bit and you lost your momentum. You're obviously attracted to her, make some moves. I say just pick things up and see what happens, honestly, what do you have to lose?
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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salsipuedes

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Well, last night i was banging my ex and she kept asking me about this new girl, frankly, i feel something isnt right, my ex also thinks something isnt right, i think i am just going to tell her i want to be friends with her until we get to know each other better, if she agress i will keep dating her, if not, i am better off.
 
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