"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What's up with pook?

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Well, I'm mostly just a DJB-reader as opposed to an active participant in these forums, so I might be a bit off track here, but is it legitamate to ask where the hell is Pook?

The reason I'm asking is that I was searching through the old Pook posts and came across a thread that mentioned he would collect his stuff into an ebook and was taking suggestions. The thread was locked, the administrator said that it would be opened again when he came back. The reason I was searching through his posts was that I was collecting all his stuff to make an ebook myself, simply because I wanted to read it all (again and again).

So is he gone? If he isn't, if you are reading this Pook, then where is your ebook because it would save me the trouble, dammit.:mad:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It's not his blog, he said on one of his posts: just a guy whose ideas are almost always spot on with his own. Why he put it as his homepage I dunno, I guess he doesn't mind confusing people...
 

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Still don't understand whats so great about the guy. All he was able to do was write well and make already known information more fun to read. THe information is great, but its not like he was the originator of it all.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Wiesman44, (Gubby)

It's not entirely about great, it is the reputation that he carries. BECAUSE he was able to create awesome threads and brighten up your day, because everyone can relate to one of his posts and because he is in the bible is why he has the reputation that assumes great knowledge.

As a semi-unrelated analogy, think of religion. It's shoved down the throats of millions of people, and they believe it because it's glorified. Because it is glorified, people believe it more, and follow the same path.

Completely unrelated analogy, but you understand yes?
 

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Gubby said:
Well, I'm mostly just a DJB-reader as opposed to an active participant in these forums, so I might be a bit off track here, but is it legitamate to ask where the hell is Pook?

The reason I'm asking is that I was searching through the old Pook posts and came across a thread that mentioned he would collect his stuff into an ebook and was taking suggestions. The thread was locked, the administrator said that it would be opened again when he came back. The reason I was searching through his posts was that I was collecting all his stuff to make an ebook myself, simply because I wanted to read it all (again and again).

So is he gone? If he isn't, if you are reading this Pook, then where is your ebook because it would save me the trouble, dammit.:mad:


Pook is LONG gone. Good luck on that Pook Compilation of yours.

Make sure you give a link to it when you are done.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Whyshy, the link doesn't seem to work :(

And Docs man, I get what you're saying but I honestly think he describes the material a lot better than anyone else - and pretty much everything he says I connect with.

I'm really not just loving him because he's glorified - really :p
 
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