What's up with her?

[winterfresh]

Her: Younger woman, inexperienced in sex (virgin), Very aloof/introvert personality

Me(Him): Older guy, experienced in a couple girls, Also very aloof/introvert personality

We've been going out for 2-3 months, no sex (because of her inexperience and aloofness i am taking it slower) Fullest extent is kissing on the cheek/ears/etc. She's quite receptive physically. However I just want to check with you dudes (or dudettes) cause I just got back from a date with her. She's introduced me to her parents, friends, etc early in the relationship. She even has me on her friendslist on a friendsterish website. She plays the usual hard to get games, for the past couple of weeks I've been trying to give her a lip kiss and she gives me the forehead maneuver. Remember she's very aloof.

A week ago I indicated that I want to see her consistently on Fridays (this is after 2 months of dating) and she agreed to that. I setup a date with her to play Minigolf with me this Friday. We went, everything is the usual and all went well. She was receptive to my advances and stuff and we had a lot of fun. For the past month we've been doing a Fri/Sat thing and we planned to see each other on Sat morning, I asked if she was going to be ready tomorrow morning and she said that she was having "too much socializing" from which she claimed she had to help a friend because one of her "friends died" and she had church on Sunday. I asked whether I could see her later on Saturday and she said she wanted to take a socializing break and that we'll see each other next weekend. I went ... okay. She then went up to me and gave me a very tight hug and a kiss on the cheek. I can tell you she's never taken the initiative before like that. Before I left, one of her cats came out and she did her usual puppy dog moves to push my forehead away cause she didn't want her cat to run away from me.

So dudes, what's up with her cancelling all of a sudden?

I mentioned to her that I dropped out of high school but I have a GED. (I work full time) Did that affect her deeply during the date?

Yeah about the kissing part, she seems to be giving me the cheek or butting my head in a friendly way. I think she's playing hard to get but I'm not sure and could use some insight from you guys.

 

[PowertripII]

Dunno, but I just got back from bumping uglies with a cougar in the backseat of her car and I'm actually too busy smelling my fingers to think of an honest reply.

Maybe you should stop being such a wuss and just throw it in her? Hmm..

 

[winterfresh]

Anyone else?

 

[rocky_mtn]

How old are you, her?
Is she saving 'it' for marriage or do you think that you will be the one?

Maybe she really does need a little break from socializing. Death of a friend can be emotionally draining and maybe she needs some time to reflect or be alone or with her girl friends. Don't let canceling one date be a major deal. If she cancels, don't counter offer, just go to the next planned weekend date.

Her initiative on the hug is good. I get worried too when the women never initiates any physical contact, but some women are just that way.

Besides having standing weekend dates, do you refer to each other and boyfriend or girlfriend? Do either of you see other people?


From the limited info you posted, I would say that you have locked yourself into the predictable relationship and you're not increasing the intensity if you are still posting here about initiating hugs and kisses on the cheek.

You need to increase her interest by not being so predictable and accomodating. Make her work a little bit. Then increase the intensity. You should be getting kisses on the lips, at least, better yet making out. If she rejects your advances for a kiss on the lips, then unfortunately you are in the friend zone.