Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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What's up with chicks and nipples?

STR8UP

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What's the fascination? Why do girls love to pinch guy's nipples?

It happened to me several times this weekend. If I know the chick well enough I pinch right back. Maybe I should pinch back REGARDLESS.

I also got a compliment on my nipples. Never knew I had nice ones, but apparently so.

Is it a sexual turn-on? Flirting? A reaction tester? Dominant gesture? Other?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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STR8UP said:
What's the fascination? Why do girls love to pinch guy's nipples?

It happened to me several times this weekend. If I know the chick well enough I pinch right back. Maybe I should pinch back REGARDLESS.

I also got a compliment on my nipples. Never knew I had nice ones, but apparently so.

Is it a sexual turn-on? Flirting? A reaction tester? Dominant gesture? Other?
Depends whether it's a titty twister, painful type or if it's a sexual cue. Either way if she's big enough to touch she's big enough to BE touched.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
Depends whether it's a titty twister, painful type or if it's a sexual cue.
Yea, mainly the titty twister type. Pinching. Not overtly sexual but I doubt that a chick is going to touch you there if she isn't at all attracted to you.

Either way if she's big enough to touch she's big enough to BE touched.
No kidding. Hell, next time I'll skip the nipples and go for a nice pinch on the lower ass/ inner thigh area. That'll get her attention.
 

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don't go so low STR8UP, your going to come off as a pervert if you go for the sweet spot right away. Like nothing is going on, just a playful titty twister, what if she tickled you, and you decided to throw her to the ground and give her an all out tickle fest... doesn't work that way.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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NOTE: This was when I was single. I still flirt but not like this.

girl slaps me on the @$$. I slap back.

girl pinches my nipples. I pinch back.

A couple weeks ago, a girl I was playing badmitton with hit me in the @$$ with a raquet. I twacked her in the pubic region and she just laughed and tried to hit my @$$ again.

NOTE: This girl is obsessed with me and I felt bad about doing it but old habits die hard :trouble:

DOUBLE NOTE: i am faithful to my girlfriend at all times. Sometimes it is fun to just have some fun though.

comic_relief
 

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Whatever you do, stay playful when she does it. Even if it seems like she's trying to be dominant. I had a girl do this to me and I blew myself out by taking it the wrong way (like she was ****ing with me and trying to be dominant). Just pinch her back and if she refuses to let you, then do it anyway or if she gets serious and mad at you, do a freeze-out on her.

Good luck...

Duke
 

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The girl that did it last night has done it before and she KNOWS I will do it right back to her. Last time she did it we were in a bar, and she reached over and grabbed my nipple so I did it right back. Then later on she made a comment on how she wears a padded bra, so Ireached my finger right down to her bare nipple so I could feel how thick it was. That got a reaction out of her. She wasn't pissed so I knew I could push the limits from then on.

Another girl that did it a couple of nights ago I had only "met" a few minutes before. I say "met" because we weren't introduced, but she was with a couple of girls I know and being pretty flirtatious despite the fact that she claimed to be headed to her boyfriend's house. I didn't push it with her cause she wasn't exactly a friend OR a stranger, and I didn't know how she would react. I think next time I'm just gonna say F-it and step it up a notch. Grab her nipple when she grabs yours, then later on go for the lower ass. She can't really say anythng if SHE was the one who started touching YOU.

That gives me an idea.....

You know, this would be a REALLY bold move that has the potential to increase attraction if it's done pre-emptively in the right way with the right girl. I mean, how many guys would playfully pinch a woman's nipple before she did something like that to him? I'm not saying to walk up behind a club hoochie and surprise her, but if you had enough rapport I think it would be easy to pull off and it would score you quite a few points. And of course, it could backfire and you could go to jail!

But take for instance Saturday night. I was in a club and ran into a girl I knew. She was with several friends and immediately one of them starts messing with me. She kept it up all night, and eventually we were grinding on the dance floor and she started kissing me on the cheek. I KNOW I could have pulled it off with her.

How does the saying go??? "Chance favors the brave" or something like that!
 

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I bet (.)(.) aka titboy is jealous.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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1,927 posts... and people point fingers at me...

:DGJ with the KBJ tell us how the nipple pinching goes:p
Hope you don't write to us from prison!

I just hope you know the term kino escalation... "if you break the flow, you've got to go"
 

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STR8UP said:
The girl that did it last night has done it before and she KNOWS I will do it right back to her. Last time she did it we were in a bar, and she reached over and grabbed my nipple so I did it right back. Then later on she made a comment on how she wears a padded bra, so Ireached my finger right down to her bare nipple so I could feel how thick it was. That got a reaction out of her. She wasn't pissed so I knew I could push the limits from then on.

Another girl that did it a couple of nights ago I had only "met" a few minutes before. I say "met" because we weren't introduced, but she was with a couple of girls I know and being pretty flirtatious despite the fact that she claimed to be headed to her boyfriend's house. I didn't push it with her cause she wasn't exactly a friend OR a stranger, and I didn't know how she would react. I think next time I'm just gonna say F-it and step it up a notch. Grab her nipple when she grabs yours, then later on go for the lower ass. She can't really say anythng if SHE was the one who started touching YOU.

That gives me an idea.....

You know, this would be a REALLY bold move that has the potential to increase attraction if it's done pre-emptively in the right way with the right girl. I mean, how many guys would playfully pinch a woman's nipple before she did something like that to him? I'm not saying to walk up behind a club hoochie and surprise her, but if you had enough rapport I think it would be easy to pull off and it would score you quite a few points. And of course, it could backfire and you could go to jail!

But take for instance Saturday night. I was in a club and ran into a girl I knew. She was with several friends and immediately one of them starts messing with me. She kept it up all night, and eventually we were grinding on the dance floor and she started kissing me on the cheek. I KNOW I could have pulled it off with her.

How does the saying go??? "Chance favors the brave" or something like that!

fate favors the bold
 

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flippinfreak said:
1,927 posts... and people point fingers at me...

:DGJ with the KBJ tell us how the nipple pinching goes:p
Hope you don't write to us from prison!

I just hope you know the term kino escalation... "if you break the flow, you've got to go"
That's why I said "The right girl at the right time".

Or is it one of those double standard things where a woman can get away with it no matter what, but a man can't unless the woman "approves"?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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