What's up the damn chasing at this stage?!

[styleman]

What is up with women and there damn chasing games…

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Okay, so to start of with it is a weird set-up… I like this girl and we date on and off, it has not developed into a relationship… we like each other, but I need to focus on carrier and she understands this. We’ve known each other for a long time, and we don’t see other people.
So I was abroad for a while, whist I was away I get an email from her about some thing she is excited about happening to her, so I reply and say I’ll speak to her when I get back.
So the night I get back I’m sleeping and jet lagged, and I get a text message from her at 1am, so I contemplated not replying, and turning my phone off, but it had been a long time since I had spoken to her, even before I was away, so I reply, and in turns into a conversation of 40 odd texts back and forth, which I eventually have to end at 3am because I was just too tired.
So today, 3 days later I text her in the afternoon, and no reply from her it’s 9.30 pm. I know there is nothing wrong with her because I met her boss on the tube home from work, and she came up in our conversation.
It’s not that I don’t like her, and I’m used to this, because she often does not reply texts, but it feels like bull****, that I’d wake up jet lagged and absolutely knackered because she wants to talk, but if I send her a message, replying does not seem like an issue to her, I act like I don't care, but of course inside I do… it's bull****….
Two reasons for my post, first to get it off my chest, and second to ask are all women like this, or is this due to me not wanting a proper relationship?

 

[blueguy]

3 days? She might be playing harder to get and making you fear losing her (commitment pattern) since you're going too slow for her, or maybe she is just genuinely losing interest, or maybe your text just didn't merit a reply... You can't judge this stuff off one text.

 

[Phyzzle]

it has not developed into a relationship… we like each other, but I need to focus on carrier and she understands this.

So you don't want a relationship with her, but you're concerned enough to post here when she doesn't return a TEXT??

Hmmmmm. . . . so which is it? Are you into this girl or not?

are all women like this, or is this due to me not wanting a proper relationship?

The second. It's due to the fact that you aren't dating. You're just some F-Buddy. She's probably out with some other guy who's more interested in being with her.

Besides, enough phone games.

My last gf was always txting me asking how my day was, yadda yadda. When I txted back (sometimes hours later) it was ONLY to make some kind of reference to the next time I see her.

 

[Shiftkey]

You need to stop being her doormat. If you were tired, texting her could wait for the next day. Infact, I avoid texting completely. It gives the woman too much power to blow you off.

 

[ScrewIt]

You need to stop being her doormat. If you were tired, texting her could wait for the next day. Infact, I avoid texting completely. It gives the woman too much power to blow you off.

If women have the power, then so does the guy. But i agree on doing away with texting..it's just too convenient to stop texting.

Dont talk so much with a girl unless you're
A) in a relationship
B) you're her girlfriend

Do use the phone to set dates by calling, and talk no longer than a few mins.

 

[jigga23]

dude you shouldve not had 40 texts back and forth. you shouldve said im good blah blah. then end it say your tired etc. and said ill call you tomorrow or well hang out tomorrow or whenever. you showed way too much interest dude.