"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What's too young?

azanon

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I actually agree with a lot of what you just said duraco, but from a different viewpoint. I'm reminded of the Star Wars series where George Lucas explained that there were always only 2 "Siths" because if there were more, they'd all just end up destroying each other. Or another example, Machivelli's The Prince goes into an explanation about how being an effective prince necessitates that the masses are followers with limitations. Much of that book is spent on how to impose societial guidelines to maintain that delicate balance (the balance being, the majority weak so that the minority can be strong).

So, yes, we can't all "have it all" because there very much would be chaos. There simply isn't enough to go around for us all to have more than "our fair share". There is no karma, and there is no balance. You can have more than your fair share, but mathematically it much come at the expense of someone else's fair share.

So, quite frankly, i'm glad that you and many like you choose a variety of forms of self-depravation, duraco. If it weren't for people like you, most of the advantages I have simply couldn't be realized for logical reasons. Its not what I do that gives me more than my fair share of power, its what you don't (or won't) do that gives it to me. And since you're the one that's choosing to be in the position you're in, my hands are clean of it.

So, anyway, my limits are easy to figure out. They consist of whatever State and Federal laws are that are currently being enforced. I certainly don't want to go to jail.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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oldguy said:
I'm in my mid fiftes. Opinions please. How young can a woman I'm pursuing be before the age difference is just too creepy?

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These hors nowadays are sucking balls at 10 years old -- by the time they are 15 they have had more sexual experiences then a woman of 80!! Get the youngest hor of legal age!! A woman's beauty is strictly tied to her age - the younger the better!!!!
 

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Another angle:

it would be easy to dismiss folks who, rather than work out their sexual terrors/hangups/fears/obsessions in psychotherapy and counseling, project their unresolved issues by trying to regulate the sexual behavior of other people.

But, being open-minded, I take every opportunity to benefit from the contributions of those more Puritanical among us.

For example-

I am currently pursuing a young lady, safely above the legal threshold, who is Midwestern, Catholic, Church-going, conservative, Asian (sense of propriety), etc. etc.

Oh, and she's very hot, which I 've verified with extended massages.

This woman is a volcano primed to burst, and I will be there when that lava
blows, bathing in the glory of all the sexual repression now gratefully unshackled.

The Churches' and society's centuries-old focus on being sexual regulation organizations has been internalized by many among us and the damage has been great, but the flip side is the incredible payoff that comes when nature's call unlocks not only the natural urges but also the pent-up artificial pressure created by so many prohibitions just waiting to be thrown overboard in the heat of the moment.

Again, no need to break laws- there's plenty of non-juridical taboos and restrictions provided for us to enjoy breaking.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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