You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
My dad is 51 and all my girlfriends/friends who are girls always think he is hot. He is in good shape, he lifts weights and runs three or four times a week. He still has almost all of his hair as well. He has a decent job, but I don't think that has anything to do with it.joekerr31 said:can i be honest?
do you guys in your 50s really find a lot of 19 year olds are 'in' to you? or is it just that they are friendly and you take this to mean they are in to you?
i mean, are you meeting these women at work or at a strip bar? in both scenarios women will be tempted to flirt with you due to the environment.
unless you look like pierce brosnan or have the potential to be a sugar daddy, i just can't imagine an attractive 19 year old taking an interest in a 50 year old + man.
i dont mean to be rude, its just that most 19 year old would be "like, ewww, he's like oh my gawsh, like my dad like."
anyway, share your insights. it will be sweet if when im 50 i can look forward to scoring some 19 year old *ss now and then![]()
Ha ha , gotcha kiddo !MikeYikes122 said:That said, I could never see any of them actually having any sort of a sexual relationship with my dad.
>>>> Why not ? he knows more that you and has more sexual experience than you and has more maturity, commonsense, coolness and money - so tell me again, why do you think that chicks would NOT be interested in him over you ?
You're probably right. My dad could probably take any girlfriend from me if he wanted to. I have a feeling he had some game back in the day.jophil28 said:Ha ha , gotcha kiddo !
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Bull$hit. At 57 a 40 year old could easily be your daughter. You're gonna tell me that you wouldn't fukk a 40 yr old? Yea, that's pretty disfunctional.ducaro said:If she is young enough to be your daughter.. then I think its pretty crap and dysfunctional for you to be ploughing her.:trouble:
That's completely different from what you said the first time. Dating someone that's young enough to be your daughter is a far cry from actually dating your daughter.ducaro said:I am just a lil concerned that slowly people will start to say that its ok to 'date' your daughter - do you see what I am trying to get at?? (they are even capable of justifying that by saying we are animals after all)
STR8UP said:Fact is, anything someone claims that goes against nature is purely opinion based upon what their interpretation of what society deems appropriate.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.