What's this msg supposed to mean?

[lakeshore]

that seems ****ing weird. She's not interested in me so this will do nothing.

And who gives a sh*t if it will do nothing? How will you ever know? What do you have to lose? Have fun with it!

You are over thinking this. Just do it.

Take control dude. :kick:

 

[Iceberg]

and what do I send after that? Obviously her response will be that she thinks it's a compliment

Come on, man. Do NOT do that. Don't even ask questions in regards to that.

 

[lakeshore]

"So many times people end up fixated on doing things right, that they end up doing nothing at all." -Wright brothers

 

[Scion]

Doesn't matter what I do. Because like all women, she's not interested in me. So ****, just texted her that I'm done.

 

[lakeshore]

Doesn't matter what I do. Because like all women, she's not interested in me. So ****, just texted her that I'm done.

I don't believe you.

Regardless, change your mindset.

Think of girls as wandering aimlessly and are there for the taking. They can be stubborn and just need a nudge in the right direction, your direction.

 

[Park]

Dude stop being fking wussy OKAY? Guys here are all trying to help you, and all you tell us is "She doesn't like me, I WONT EVEN WANNA TRY".. please? Why not give it a shot, if u have nothing to loose?... dude u really gotta change ur mindset.. Think like this: SHE WANTS YOU FOR SURE, but if you are being wussy like you obv are: WHO WOULD LIKE TO HAVE SEX/DATES/RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN LIKE YOU? Ye.. YOU DO THE MATH.

 

[Iceberg]

I don't believe you.

Regardless, change your mindset.

Think of girls as wandering aimlessly and are there for the taking. They can be stubborn and just need a nudge in the right direction, your direction.

And what if this girl (like most girls) lost interest in him because he came off as "too available"? Sending her a text saying "You're amazing" is supposed to change her perspective? If anything, he should just ignore this girl for a bit, focus on other things, and maybe she'd have regained interest, wondering what she had done to turn him off.

Sending some chick you went on 2-3 dates with a text about how amazing she is just seems creepy and random. "He's so desperate and needy! I totally want to bang him now!!" Good luck with that tactic though.

 

[lakeshore]

And what if this girl (like most girls) lost interest in him because he came off as "too available"? Sending her a text saying "You're amazing" is supposed to change her perspective? If anything, he should just ignore this girl for a bit, focus on other things, and maybe she'd have regained interest, wondering what she had done to turn him off.

Sending some chick you went on 2-3 dates with a text about how amazing she is just seems creepy and random. "He's so desperate and needy! I totally want to bang him now!!" Good luck with that tactic though.

A lot of guys have been brainwashed into thinking everything is creepy. If some girl sent you a random text saying "You're amazing" I guarantee you would be intrigued. It may even turn you on. Its a lot better than "would you like to go out thursday, blah blah blah" And you'd be wondering what happened if you didn't hear back from her after that, then you would be chasing her. If not, then I guess it wasn't meant to be anyway..

 

[Iceberg]

A lot of guys have been brainwashed into thinking everything is creepy. If some girl sent you a random text saying "You're amazing" I guarantee you would be intrigued. And you'd be wondering what happened if you didn't hear back from her after that, then you would be chasing her.

Some girl that I went on a couple dates with and never banged?

I'd think the was a Stage-5 Clinger, and I'd begin typing up the restraining order shortly after receiving the text. And what happened after I didn't hear back from her? I'd imagine she found someone new to obsess over. Probably a pretzel vendor, or the cashier at Starbuck's.

I'm 28 years old, dude. Maybe if I were 18, and hadn't experienced a variety of weird/crazy girls. I know when I'm "amazing" and as much as I'm in love myself, I've never been "amazing" after a couple dates with no banging, and a girl who refuses to find time to plan a new date with me.

Like I said, if this technique works for you, then go for it. But right now the whole scenario conjures images of some weird dude with the blue lighting of his cell phone reflecting off his face as he texts "you're amazing" to some girl he barely knows. I've seen this movie before. Spoiler alert: the guy doesn't win.

 

[lakeshore]

Thats cool. We all have our own way of seeing things. Not right or wrong, just different.

 

[Rescue Mission]

She does not want to hang out with you because she sees no point in it. It's a waste of time to her.......she is tired of kissing you and talking to you, and because you have not showed her that you can sexually satisfy her, she sees no benefit in seeing you - girls with options don't like to waste time being wishy-washy with some guy who doesn't know how to be sexual.

 

[DondottaJuanpappa]

Its too late bro. I dont know if anyone has already said this but you should of took it to the next level when you were kissing. She prolly wanted you to take it to the next level which would prolly be hot buck naked sex and you blew it lol. You'd be surprise how once you finally get to a certain level with certain chicks they want you to speed up. But thats why she thinks you dont like her or is "mean" lol. Be a man next time bro lol. Thats all I cant say. My two cents. Now my two fingers. Duces.

 

[Kailex]

Doesn't matter what I do. Because like all women, she's not interested in me. So ****, just texted her that I'm done.

*Applause*

You just gave her EXACTLY what she wanted and EXACTLY what she was aiming for. This is what she was baiting you to do when she said that it wasn't fair to you that you couldn't see her all the time.

She played you like a marionette.

Dance, puppet, dance.

I'm betting she didn't text you anything back and I can guarantee that once she saw that message, she sighed a nice, gentle sigh of relief. In her mind, you just validated everything she had previously thought about you, everything that made her go cold about you.

Next time, when a girl says "maybe" or "I'm busy", it means that you are no longer in the top 3 priority for them and that it's time to move on.

NEXT.

 

[Ease]

Its alright if you're asking how to salvage the situation.

As said, it sounds like its too late, but obviously you're gonna want to play your cards anyway.

Disappear for a while and let her initiate contact with you. Its risky, because her tone sounds like she may actually not contact you. Wait a week or even 2 weeks if you're up for it, by that time a normal girl will probably have contacted you in one way or another. It doesnt matter how, it can be going out of her way to bump into you, or texting you something random.

After your mini break of a week or so, if she initiates contact, hit again with a date. Dont let her play hard to get and all that bs, go for a straight date. Assume complete interest, 'yo lets go XXXX'. To that, if she really is busy, wait for her to counteroffer or any suggestion for a future date. If she blows you off on that then **** it. If she doesnt text you for 2 weeks then go ahead and initiate again and try another date, if she blows you off or plays uninterested- then **** it. If you find another girl in the meanwhile- then **** it.

That's how i would play this. For future reference, when you ask her out, her response will be apologetic and will hint at when she is free or a counter offer of another date. Saying 'busy' with nothing else should be ringing nasty alarm bells in your head.

 

[Ease]

So ****, just texted her that I'm done.

Just read this.

Fail, if you were really done then you would have just stopped contacting.

Texting that 'you're done' is saying 'i am so sad and upset and am giving up, i hate you!'

Better luck next time.

 

[Scion]

Well I didn't just text her "I'm done". What I did was cancel the date I asked her on (but she didn't say yes or no yet) and she guessed what was up. And she did text me back, she send a wall of text saying I don't know what's going on in her life and that she was just trying to be honest with me about her being busy. But I felt like I was being jerked around and didn't like it.

I probably won't try and salvage it or try contacting her again. No point in doing that as she claims she's "too busy" (even though I have more going on in my life yet I can find time to hang out). I'll probably run into her in the future but for now I think I'm gonna put dating on the backburner. I have no luck with women anyway, I maybe go out with a girl once every month or 2.

 

[Kailex]

I probably won't try and salvage it or try contacting her again. No point in doing that as she claims she's "too busy" (even though I have more going on in my life yet I can find time to hang out). I'll probably run into her in the future but for now I think I'm gonna put dating on the backburner. I have no luck with women anyway, I maybe go out with a girl once every month or 2.

First of all... there's nothing to salvage.

Second, when you cancelled, she turned the whole thing around on you and your "lack of understanding". Trust me, she finds time to hang out, she just doesn't want to do that with you. Everyone's busy unless a person that peaks our interest to a high level comes around.

Third, please... the self-defeating attitude will win you no sympathy on these forums. Man up, it's one girl. We all have our ups and downs.

If you really have no luck with women, what's that leave you with?
And don't be looking at me funny either... I'm totally into women.

If you do think you need a break though, take it, to concentrate on work/school/whatever... but to say "I have no luck with women" is borderline AFC right there.

Chin up soldier. You're better than that.

 

[Scion]

First of all... there's nothing to salvage.

Second, when you cancelled, she turned the whole thing around on you and your "lack of understanding". Trust me, she finds time to hang out, she just doesn't want to do that with you. Everyone's busy unless a person that peaks our interest to a high level comes around.

Third, please... the self-defeating attitude will win you no sympathy on these forums. Man up, it's one girl. We all have our ups and downs.

If you really have no luck with women, what's that leave you with?
And don't be looking at me funny either... I'm totally into women.

If you do think you need a break though, take it, to concentrate on work/school/whatever... but to say "I have no luck with women" is borderline AFC right there.

Chin up soldier. You're better than that.

yeah, I know there's no salvaging it, only mentioned that because someone assumed that's what I wanted. I admit I've thought of calling to apologize but I have nothing to apologize for. Doing so would just make matters worse.

And yeah, her trying to turn things around on me was a bit off. Suddenly I'm the bad guy for not understanding why she blows me off. Typically female tactics.

The only reason I said I have no luck with women is because it's true. Never been successful at dating, longest I've dated a girl was 3 weeks. Most of the time I either don't get a date or they go cold after the first date. Fairly annoying.