Hi all, this is my 1st post. I've been reading these forums for awhile now, and been thinking of what I need to improve on.
Let me tell you all a little about myself. I've always been shy back in high school and 3rd year of college, which procrastinated my learning of the game to my early 20's. Afterwards I find myself constantly thinking of new ways to get girls. I was pretty much self taught, and read only the Double Your Dating ebook. I am pretty confident in any initial conversation or first impression to a girl, but what I find lacking is what comes afterwards.
For the past year, before having a little break from dating, I've been practicing on whatever girls I can find, be it school, malls, fast food lines. I can pretty much talk to anyone, anywhere, and strike a conversation to land a phone number (phone number success is probably 80-85%). My main problem is that after I get the number, I have some kind of fear of talking on the phone with a girl of interest, since I find it hard to talk to them if they can't see my facial expressions. I also can't maintain either the girl's interest, or my own interest, for a longer period of time.
If I go to a club or whatever and sarge a girl, I can probably maintain a good conversation for 5-10 minutes before I find myself running out of ideas and forced to get my ass out of there. One way is good that I can lead the girl into thinking that I'm hard to get. But then when I run into her again it's difficult for me to strike a new convo with the same intensity.
What's a way to improve my game. Any recommendations of books, training exercises, etc will be greatly appreciated.
Let me tell you all a little about myself. I've always been shy back in high school and 3rd year of college, which procrastinated my learning of the game to my early 20's. Afterwards I find myself constantly thinking of new ways to get girls. I was pretty much self taught, and read only the Double Your Dating ebook. I am pretty confident in any initial conversation or first impression to a girl, but what I find lacking is what comes afterwards.
For the past year, before having a little break from dating, I've been practicing on whatever girls I can find, be it school, malls, fast food lines. I can pretty much talk to anyone, anywhere, and strike a conversation to land a phone number (phone number success is probably 80-85%). My main problem is that after I get the number, I have some kind of fear of talking on the phone with a girl of interest, since I find it hard to talk to them if they can't see my facial expressions. I also can't maintain either the girl's interest, or my own interest, for a longer period of time.
If I go to a club or whatever and sarge a girl, I can probably maintain a good conversation for 5-10 minutes before I find myself running out of ideas and forced to get my ass out of there. One way is good that I can lead the girl into thinking that I'm hard to get. But then when I run into her again it's difficult for me to strike a new convo with the same intensity.
What's a way to improve my game. Any recommendations of books, training exercises, etc will be greatly appreciated.