What's the Point? She'll Just Lose Interest

[Juan_Man]

Does anyone ever feel this way whenever a girl starts showing signs of interest? When do you know if a girl is a good time investment?

 

[salsipuedes]

Thats the problem, you are thinking about her, i used to do that a lot, but now i think about my own interest, right now i am dating this hottie and my mindset is "is she good enough for me", so i am not thinking about pleasing her, saying everything right, or if shes interested in me or not, i think of her as a friend and she has to show me if shes got what i need. Women sense this, just like we can, and feel more atracted to you because they know you don't need them.

 

[BrotherAP]

This is what people are talking about when they say 'have confidence' - which is exactly the opposite of what you're doing. You're defeatist attitude will become a self-fullfilling prophecy - when you assume she's going to lose interest and behave in a manner that causes her to, you'll use that as evidence that it was hopeless to begin with and be even more sure that the girl wont like you next time. It's a vicious cycle known as a negative feedback loop and it's killing your game.