"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What's the point in waiting before getting married?

Drdeee

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POOK: Married is not success, most people get divorced.

So we hook up with different chicks, test them, blah blah blah. Usually we together for about 6 months and then get married, if that's the cause.


NATURE: Love chemistry lasts 6 months, after adrenaline kicks in for raising the baby, 4 years after love dies, chemically.


Love is a process, much like smoking weed, you take a puff, chemicals flood your brain, and you experience your trip. We know how long this trip lasts, thus what's the point in waiting and testing a chick?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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TheJazz

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There was a good thread on here that compared the perfect marriage to being in a sinking ship with your partner, tied together with a rope. You've got to work as a team. You've got to have camaraderie. Sure, for the first six months your brain will be flooded with all the tingly, butterfly giving love hormones we all know and love, but what happens after? Can you stick together? Will you work well as a team? Do you get along?

A good marriage works because the husband and a wife are a team. They may fight and be bitter towards each other at times, but at the end of the day, they got each others backs no matter what. For richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, you know how that goes. That's why you wait before getting married. To make sure you can put up with each other for a long time, targeting your entire lives. You usually get to know if you're ready in a couple of years' time and then you tie the knot. I hope I answered your question.
 

Alle_Gory

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Q: What's the point in waiting before getting married?

A: Cooling off period after the honeymoon phase of the relationship. People act normally instead of being on their best behaviour. You see them for what they are and they see you. If you're a good match you'll be together despite your flaws and baggage. If you're not compatible you break it off without having to go through divorce, theft of assets (in divorce) and lawyer fees.


For god's sake, you're 30 years old. You should be telling ME this.
 

women haze

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TheJazz said:
There was a good thread on here that compared the perfect marriage to being in a sinking ship with your partner, tied together with a rope. You've got to work as a team. You've got to have camaraderie. Sure, for the first six months your brain will be flooded with all the tingly, butterfly giving love hormones we all know and love, but what happens after? Can you stick together? Will you work well as a team? Do you get along?

A good marriage works because the husband and a wife are a team. They may fight and be bitter towards each other at times, but at the end of the day, they got each others backs no matter what. For richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, you know how that goes. That's why you wait before getting married. To make sure you can put up with each other for a long time, targeting your entire lives. You usually get to know if you're ready in a couple of years' time and then you tie the knot. I hope I answered your question.
*hugs Jazz* I needed to read that...I'm losing faith in humanity...and my sanity.

thank you
 

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TheJazz said:
There was a good thread on here that compared the perfect marriage to being in a sinking ship with your partner, tied together with a rope. You've got to work as a team. You've got to have camaraderie. Sure, for the first six months your brain will be flooded with all the tingly, butterfly giving love hormones we all know and love, but what happens after? Can you stick together? Will you work well as a team? Do you get along?

A good marriage works because the husband and a wife are a team. They may fight and be bitter towards each other at times, but at the end of the day, they got each others backs no matter what. For richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, you know how that goes. That's why you wait before getting married. To make sure you can put up with each other for a long time, targeting your entire lives. You usually get to know if you're ready in a couple of years' time and then you tie the knot. I hope I answered your question.

this is my opinion on marriage as well. slightly cynical but seems to be the truth.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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