"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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CherryBreaker

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I've gone through this site many times and there are some good things and bad things I've found but almost everyone here is one way or another trying to bang as many HBs as possible. Is that a good thing? because I think it just revolves around and bites us in the butt.

You've got to know that when we try to hit up as many HBs as possible, that just increases the frequency rate of guys hitting on them which gives them more power and boosts their egos which they in turn use it against us and other DJs making the hook up that much harder. Making even the average looking ones harder to get at.

I think all of our focus should be in getting our first girl (once she has an attraction to you and has gone on several dates which is easy for most of us) to try and keep her (which is the main challenge). I don't see too many advice here in trying to keep a girl to stay with you.

As you can tell, my main problem is not in getting the girl, it's keeping her. I would rather have one girl forever (which all of my ex GFs qualify except the first one) rather than face this pain of breaking up and having to start over not knowing what path I'll be heading.

Everything here is about scoring and initiating the move to try and get a girl but nothing valuable here in trying to keep the love of your life. Wouldn't it be nice to wake up every morning with the girl you love right next to you? Spend romantic evenings together? Share you life, love, and family forever together? That's what life is all about right or are we all wanting to ruin it for the next generation of men?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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griffon65

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Well I guess I'm in the minority because I'm looking for a relationship. But honestly you just end up meeting girls that you can bang but theres no chance for a relationship (has BF, slut etc.) and I'm not gonna pass up free sex. But I'm not actively going out and hitting on girls solely so I can sleep with them.
 

spider_007

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Onece you learn all the things on this site and try them out and all....... you suddenly realize something. You are a better man. You have ambiton, drive......your happy, and your happyness doen't depend on women. You have confidence that you never thought that you would. And with that comes the side effect; lots of women wanting you.

Hitting on 200 chicks in one year not only gets you laid, but it also makes you imune to the worst kind of rejection a man can face, which in turn improves your life emencly.

The bottom line is; this site teachas you something that your father forgot to, and that is haw to be THE MAN .
Once you are "THE MAN" and have the "ULTAMITE CONFIDENCE" and at the same time you "KNOW WHAT MAKES WOMAN THICK" you will have no trouble finding a "QUALITY WOMAN" and also keeping her(if that is what you wan't).
 

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Originally posted by CherryBreaker
I've gone through this site many times and there are some good things and bad things I've found but almost everyone here is one way or another trying to bang as many HBs as possible. Is that a good thing? because I think it just revolves around and bites us in the butt.

You've got to know that when we try to hit up as many HBs as possible, that just increases the frequency rate of guys hitting on them which gives them more power and boosts their egos which they in turn use it against us and other DJs making the hook up that much harder. Making even the average looking ones harder to get at.

I think all of our focus should be in getting our first girl (once she has an attraction to you and has gone on several dates which is easy for most of us) to try and keep her (which is the main challenge). I don't see too many advice here in trying to keep a girl to stay with you.

As you can tell, my main problem is not in getting the girl, it's keeping her. I would rather have one girl forever (which all of my ex GFs qualify except the first one) rather than face this pain of breaking up and having to start over not knowing what path I'll be heading.

Everything here is about scoring and initiating the move to try and get a girl but nothing valuable here in trying to keep the love of your life. Wouldn't it be nice to wake up every morning with the girl you love right next to you? Spend romantic evenings together? Share you life, love, and family forever together? That's what life is all about right or are we all wanting to ruin it for the next generation of men?
JUST cause most of the people here are boys or simply like to be single, doesnt mean everyone is like that, and you certainly didnt read everything as many guys here like to keep long term relationships and some like to be monogamous.
 

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Originally posted by spider_007

The bottom line is; this site teachas you something that your father forgot to, and that is haw to be THE MAN
your father sux then.
most peoples fathers are more then adequate at teaching their sons that, if only by example,
most are not willing to listen.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Desdinova

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most peoples fathers are more then adequate at teaching their sons that,
Mine taught me one simple thing: all women are b1tches. My father sux too.

Now, onto your post:

I think all of our focus should be in getting our first girl (once she has an attraction to you and has gone on several dates which is easy for most of us) to try and keep her (which is the main challenge).
Keeping the first woman who's willing to date you a few times isn't a good thing. It takes time to find a woman's good and bad qualities. Women can and will put on a different personality just to impress some guy they're dating. After some time has passed, the charade gets boring and she becomes the b1tch she always was. You discover she hates all the stuff you like, she loves the stuff you hate, and she's got a bunch of skeletons in the closet that you've discovered.

Before keeping any woman, you need to make sure she is of the high quality, and is worth the time you spend with her. If you don't do this, you're only going to set yourself up for disaster yet again.

The purpose of LTRs is not to avoid getting dumped, but to spend time with a high quality woman who is worth your time. I'd rather get dumped than waste many years with a low quality woman.
 

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1. not everyone has a father.

2. a lot of posters are KBJ's(key board jockeys)

3. there are posters who just want sex and dont really value love and commitment.

4. they are angry KBJ's who pretend to be so hard ass they dont believe in love.

5. then tehre is people like me, who want a family life.
 

frivolousz21

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The purpose of LTRs is not to avoid getting dumped, but to spend time with a high quality woman who is worth your time. I'd rather get dumped than waste many years with a low quality woman.
Probably one of the best things every written here
 
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