edger
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Did it happen 2 yrs later, 5 yrs later, 10 YEARS later? Anyone have any stories or know anyone this has happened to?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What's the LONGEST amount of time that's elapsed before you got back with an ex?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
jophil28
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How about 24 years !! We were teenage lovers and I went abroad to study and came back twenty years later // She called me after her marriage went south and we then got together F**Ked for about a month in motels.
I made the GRAND mistake of telling her "how I felt" and then she said "I need a friend - not another relationship" - FriendZone !
She then went on marry some boring old alcoholic high school teacher who lived on on disability welfare ..She was a beauty queen when she was 19 years old and she ate me up until we split .She dollowed me across three states when I was twenty one years old.
Guys -If an EX contacts you following a breakup OF HER'S, then she is on a mission of EGO REPAIR.. You will be used for this purpose and when she is feeling more emotionally stable she will move on.
I made the GRAND mistake of telling her "how I felt" and then she said "I need a friend - not another relationship" - FriendZone !
She then went on marry some boring old alcoholic high school teacher who lived on on disability welfare ..She was a beauty queen when she was 19 years old and she ate me up until we split .She dollowed me across three states when I was twenty one years old.
Guys -If an EX contacts you following a breakup OF HER'S, then she is on a mission of EGO REPAIR.. You will be used for this purpose and when she is feeling more emotionally stable she will move on.
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KontrollerX
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A week.
Then it lasted for two months after that until I had to get rid of the b!tch since she couldn't stop cheating.
Talk about AFC on my part guys.
Don't ever take a cheater back.
Well, take them back if you'll do what a poster named 8ball did. His ex came crying back to him two years later after cheating on him and moving in with someother guy, he pretended he forgave her, took her to Atlantic City fvcked her for two weeks and then told her he never wanted to see her again haha.
Then it lasted for two months after that until I had to get rid of the b!tch since she couldn't stop cheating.
Talk about AFC on my part guys.
Don't ever take a cheater back.
Well, take them back if you'll do what a poster named 8ball did. His ex came crying back to him two years later after cheating on him and moving in with someother guy, he pretended he forgave her, took her to Atlantic City fvcked her for two weeks and then told her he never wanted to see her again haha.
RecoveringAFC
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6 months in my case.
We were together for a couple years. Stupid fights etc. Then we broke up.
6 months of no contact and she comes back. Being totally AFC back then I got back together with her. We were together for a few more years.
We broke up again. This time I've learned my lesson. It's been 1.5 years since.
If a woman breaks up with you, no matter how bad you feel, DO NOT get back together with her. There is a reason everyone here says "no contact". In the end it really does make the most sense.
We were together for a couple years. Stupid fights etc. Then we broke up.
6 months of no contact and she comes back. Being totally AFC back then I got back together with her. We were together for a few more years.
We broke up again. This time I've learned my lesson. It's been 1.5 years since.
If a woman breaks up with you, no matter how bad you feel, DO NOT get back together with her. There is a reason everyone here says "no contact". In the end it really does make the most sense.
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Six months ... don't do it, it's a mistake and in most cases, it's AFC. You realize why you broke up.
Amazing, after the second breakup, my ex-gf tried to reel me in one last time, this time I told her, "I've moved on." She was stunned.
In most cases, don't do it ... always exceptions to the rule, however.
Amazing, after the second breakup, my ex-gf tried to reel me in one last time, this time I told her, "I've moved on." She was stunned.
In most cases, don't do it ... always exceptions to the rule, however.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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3 months.
I agree, in most cases it is a bad idea. Im no one to talk bc i have gone back to an ex, or taken her back rather, but there is usually a disfunctional reason for one person going back. Not always, but usually.
And never, EVER take back a cheater.
I agree, in most cases it is a bad idea. Im no one to talk bc i have gone back to an ex, or taken her back rather, but there is usually a disfunctional reason for one person going back. Not always, but usually.
And never, EVER take back a cheater.
Bad_Lil'Pixie
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*pixie digs and digs in dirt, touches ground*
Nope, Hells still hot, so were're still apart!
Seriously, never, ever went back to an ex, never called, never crossed paths, never even asked to be friends.....what's done was meant to be.
Nope, Hells still hot, so were're still apart!
Seriously, never, ever went back to an ex, never called, never crossed paths, never even asked to be friends.....what's done was meant to be.
TruthHurts
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edger... forget the B.tch... find another girl, or alteast in the mean time focus on your work or career(education), or go back to the gym... Forget about her man.... Dont hope for her to come back or vice versa, just forget that she ever existed...edger said:
TruthHurts
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Wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
now that is good advice..... truth hurts....jophil28 said:
Dash Riprock
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This NEVER works.
If you were incompatible the FIRST time around, what makes you think the second will be any better? And don't lie to yourself by saying, "Well, yeah, I know, but..."
It's a total AFC move to take back a chick that dumped you (or you dumped)--she/you will only do it AGAIN.
I have played this game on many occasions; dumping a girl and then thinking how I really liked some things about her a few weeks/months later. 80% of the time they were willing to come back where I dumped then again FOR THE SAME REASONS.
It's the same when you get dumped by a girl, only it will hurt WORSE the second time around, damage your ego and confidence even more, etc., and set you MUCH FURTHER back than the first time.
Staying away and out of reach is called STRENGTH.
Adopt a warrior mentality and start over fresh somewhere else, building on what you learned.
Move on, bud.
If you were incompatible the FIRST time around, what makes you think the second will be any better? And don't lie to yourself by saying, "Well, yeah, I know, but..."
It's a total AFC move to take back a chick that dumped you (or you dumped)--she/you will only do it AGAIN.
I have played this game on many occasions; dumping a girl and then thinking how I really liked some things about her a few weeks/months later. 80% of the time they were willing to come back where I dumped then again FOR THE SAME REASONS.
It's the same when you get dumped by a girl, only it will hurt WORSE the second time around, damage your ego and confidence even more, etc., and set you MUCH FURTHER back than the first time.
Staying away and out of reach is called STRENGTH.
Adopt a warrior mentality and start over fresh somewhere else, building on what you learned.
Move on, bud.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Winner, great post...it's the truth guys. If she's calling, it means she just broke up or the relationship is souring at the momentjophil28 said:
edger
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TruthHurts, where did I mention I was thinking about my ex? I posted this because I was curious to see what everyone's experiences were..NOT for consolidation.TruthHurts said:
X-Man
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Because the btch dumped you even though she said you were the best sex she'd ever had in her life and you thought she could be the one. It fcks with your head and its an ego trip!Latinoman said:
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.