"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What's the Good News?

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Well somewhat motivated by another thread that got closed, I think this would be a good idea.

All we hear everyday in the news is bad stuff happening. Terrorists this, terrorists that, bombings, suicides, murders, rapes, kidnappings, shootings, robbery, drugs, gangs and on and on. You get the picture.

Not to get off topic but we all know most media sources push negativity as a scare-tactic to get the masses of sheep to fear anything but living a confined, strict life. Most people go to their 9 to 5 job come home and don't do **** to change anything. But they keeping wishing things were different. Wishing won't do any good, feeling guilty or unhappy won't do good. If you really care about some issue, DO something about it.

So my point is, there's no point in dwelling on bad news if you're only dwelling on it and not taking any action. Let's dwell on some good news. Let's find out all the wonderful things that are happening in the world. YOu may not think so, but there's tons of great stuff going on, and lots of people ARE actually happy right now.

Let's not make this political so that it doesn't get closed. So just pull a headline, something you cna read and know that life really is darn good. It will make you feel good too, I betcha. Remember to link the article if you can. Or just give us some good news about your own life if nothing else.

I'll start off.

Today Google announced that their 'hometown' of Mountain View Calif. will have free internet access throughout. Yea, they're going to give the whole town free, high-speed internet access! google says they did it to give back to their community. I bet the 72,000 people living there are really happy! That would be awesome.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20060816/ap_on_hi_te/google_wireless

Be happy :D
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I guess you guys just don't get it. I wasn't asking for what sells, I was asking for people here to start noticing that the world is a great place and that it's not just all about negativity.

Oh well I guess i'm too good for this place anyway most of you don't get what I'm saying half the time.

edit: what can I expect when this is apparently a forum helping guys with relationship and dating issues and you have guys on the front discussion board contemplating whether or not they're gay. I think I've had enough, and I'm not exactly sure how some guys stick around from registering so many years before??

You want some good news? I'm leaving, and you can continue on hopelessly. I hope I was of some help to some. Most of you are hopeless.

Thanks to the guys who helped me with my breakup. I'm still getting over it but I think I'm doing alright now.

good luck to all. be happy.
 

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robrulesyou said:
I guess you guys just don't get it. I wasn't asking for what sells, I was asking for people here to start noticing that the world is a great place and that it's not just all about negativity.

Oh well I guess i'm too good for this place anyway most of you don't get what I'm saying half the time.

edit: what can I expect when this is apparently a forum helping guys with relationship and dating issues and you have guys on the front discussion board contemplating whether or not they're gay. I think I've had enough, and I'm not exactly sure how some guys stick around from registering so many years before??

You want some good news? I'm leaving, and you can continue on hopelessly. I hope I was of some help to some. Most of you are hopeless.

Thanks to the guys who helped me with my breakup. I'm still getting over it but I think I'm doing alright now.

good luck to all. be happy.
lol The way you learn to stay here for a while is by ignoring the crap thats posted. The only forum I look at anymore is this one and occasionally H&F. The other forums are so full of crap its not worth wading through. Read the bible, then hit the field, THEN come and question or give advice.
 

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You know i think I'm going to make myself the forum ass-hole for a day and just go ranting. Because I think it's going to help release some steam. Besides it'll be fun and I know what Im talking about.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Well today I was on the bus, this kid wanted to get on but he didn't have enough money, then this girl from my class goes over and gives him enough money to buy a ticket. Oh and she's cute, so we're going out for drinks on the weekend ;)

Another time, this old dude with a million shopping bags is trying to cross the highway, but he's going a bit slow, and the light changes and a million cars are honking at him. Then this young guy comes up and helps the old dude with his shopping bags.

Yeah this kinda stuff isn't exactly newsworthy, but if everyone made that 1% effort to be a little nicer to each other...
 

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you know, I really am shocked by the news these days.

every single time I go to any news website all I hear about are the terrible things. That is all that any news source reports on on the front page, and it's really very depressing.

anyway, great thread. I hope it sticks around.
 

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I too am gettin fedup with the goverment propaganda crap. Trying to force us into a nice life of consumerism and fear. I wish there was some underground society going on that I could join...lead...and change things once and for all...

One day...
 

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Which part of Good News do you guys fail to understand? Lets move away from the negativity (that includes anti-government rants) and start posting some positive news.

Friday night I was on the train, when this kid drops his lollypop. Some patrol cops are on the train at this time, and when they see it, one of the cops pulls out a mint and gives it to the kid. Nothing special, but hey, its nice to see stuff like this.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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