"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What's the best way to respond to this?

muffin

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So I've been getting reacquainted with an HB I used to mess with a few year ago. Like a lot of females she thinks she's gods gift to men and any man should be happy to be in her presence. I've never given her the satisfaction of getting that from me. We have previously slept together but never let emotions get in the way.

So the past couple of weeks we've had a few casual get-together's for drinks and what not. She for whatever reason has felt the need to randomly text me throughout the day for what I suspect is to check up on me.

Keep in mind I always keep it real with this girl. If I'm involved with another female or have plans with another girl I'm always honest with her. So anyway, I tried on 2 0r 3 occasions the past month to make plans and take this girl out.

Every time she flaked out on me but would send me a text the next day apologizing and asking if I'm mad. So until this week the way I handled was to act as if she was the one who missed out and her shaft didn't phase me. This was honestly the truth because I've learnt to always have a plan B.

So a few days ago, same scenario I tell her I'm picking her up at a certain time to go blah blah blah, she agrees. About an hour before I call to see where she's at and to let her know I'm on my way. Her response-

"you're gonna hate me, I have stuff to do early tomorrow so I kinda wanna just sleep" I immediately deleted her number and have not lost sleep since doing so. After this I started getting late night hangup calls which I suspect were from her, and then 2 days ago she sends me a text that says "hey hunny r u mad @ me" I don't now why I but I responded with "ya u suck!" She went on to call me every name in the book. What is the best way to silence girls like this once and for all?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Maybe "ya u suck" wasn't the best idea, but you were right in dropping her.
However, it seems to me that she thinks that you are bitter about her flaking on you, which you probably are, but you should try and give her the impression that you just don't want to take her ****.
I would just call her and then basically tell her that she is full of ****, and don't listen to her crap, hang up and be done with it.
 

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muffin said:
She for whatever reason has felt the need to randomly text me throughout the day for what I suspect is to check up on me.
Not very likely that she's checking up on you, unless she's highly infatuated with you. Modern women text A LOT! I know lots of women who say they're addicted to texting and will text whoever will respond all the time...


Keep in mind I always keep it real with this girl. If I'm involved with another female or have plans with another girl I'm always honest with her.
I'm quoting this as i read it - and i can say that if you're expecting the same in return - you better have VERY HIGH interest level from her. Don't ever expect fairness from a woman who isn't completely in LOVE with you...


Every time she flaked out on me but would send me a text the next day apologizing and asking if I'm mad.
I don't like where this is going...


So until this week the way I handled was to act as if she was the one who missed out and her shaft didn't phase me. This was honestly the truth because I've learnt to always have a plan B.
But to stay congruent with the idea that she's missing out - you can not ask her back out. A guy who truely has the "her lose not mine" attitude - won't keep repeating that to her... He'll say it to her once and move on... By sticking around - what you're telling yourself or her does not matter... Your actions were saying that you valued her.


So a few days ago, same scenario I tell her I'm picking her up at a certain time to go blah blah blah, she agrees. About an hour before I call to see where she's at and to let her know I'm on my way. Her response- "you're gonna hate me, I have stuff to do early tomorrow so I kinda wanna just sleep" I immediately deleted her number and have not lost sleep since doing so.
Ok, this didn't end up nearly as bad as i thought it was going to. You ended up doing the right thing, but it took you a while to figure that out. I can guarantee you that she does this to many men in her life; a professional flaker if you will...


"hey hunny r u mad @ me"
sickening...


I don't now why I but I responded with "ya u suck!"
you should have just not responded at all... you "haven't lost any sleep" and you've moved on with your life... She's the past...


She went on to call me every name in the book. What is the best way to silence girls like this once and for all?
She wanted you to either say "NO" and kiss her @ss like others have; or she wanted you to say "YES" so she could have the final "laugh". Your best response would have been none at all... Your best response - is having already moved on with your life and not caring one bit about her and her texts... you silence them, by not talking to them once they demonstrate flakey/attention based traits...
 

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i had a similar girl who did the same, now i'm not sure how deep you guys are, but i handled it by simply ignoring her, not responding to her calls, or texts. Theirs not point to chasing a bad fish. she seems to be playing hard to get or could even be jealous of other girls you hang out with. If anything don't let this keep you from having a good time, show her you don't need to hang out with her to have a good time, its her loss.
 
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