What's the Best Way to Handle this $hit Test from an Angry Girl?

[Speculator E]

Back story:

Just started dating.

I drove her to some event. I did and she ask me to come back and pick her up at 6. I did and waited on her but she didn't show up. After 15min I just left. I couldn't text her because she doesn't have a phone at the moment and text with the WhatApp thing.

Now it looks like she's pissed off about it. Here's our last text:

http://i.imgur.com/jIxNWYo.png

I'm blue. She's white. Is she playing games with me with the "I didn't mean to say hi" text?

I'm thinking of just ignoring or texting back "that's nice" or "haha k"

Which is the best way to reply? And what do you do with a girl that's angry at you?

 

[TheException]

Which is the best way to reply? And what do you do with a girl that's angry at you?

The best reply....is no reply.

She sounds like she is using you. Women will take advantage of men who so easily give away their attention. You shouldnt be riding this woman anywhere unless you are going with her....you are not her personal taxi.

I would immediately put this chick on the backburner and use her only for sex. I wouldnt even waste time hitting her up anymore to be honest.

 

[Serenity]

Respond with "Love you too <3", it would be hilarious

 

[Speculator E]

I can see what you all are saying and I agree that no replying is the best way to go. I haven't even bother replying back. But she's in my social circle so I can't just next her like that and it's been obvious that she has liked me for months. So I was confused why she's still trying to play games. I thought all these mind games and $hit tests were supposed to become less frequent but with this girl she keeps them going on and on. Maybe because she's 18? I can't take it.

I still like here and was thinking of saying sorry but then thought that it would sound weak. And in addition I don't think what I did was wrong because it was her fault for not informing me.

 

[Yo'Mama]

Dude why were you acting as her personal taxi service? We don't know the fully story but this in itself sounds awful. I would never ask a girl I liked to do something like that, it seems incredibly disrespectful. And on top of that she didn't even show up! You might 'like' her but you have to override your instinct with your rational mind which should be telling you that this girl is garbage.

 

[poo]

Hey OP.

One piece of advice i will give you. And I will be telling my children this as they grow up too, when I have them.

Never, ever, ever let anyone take advantage of you or disrespect you. The second they do, eradicate them out of your life. Life is way to short for someone to facilitate negative emotions in you. Live life trying to promote positivity in yourself and others. And learn to walk away from negativity

This girl clearly has a lot of growing up to do. That was a perfect sign of immaturity just to instil bad feelings in your mind and body. A purely hurtful act on her part, that had no other intention but to make you feel like absolute sh*t.

My advice for you. Walk away and preserve your peace of mind.

As you said she is in your social circle? Well, for that, i say at most social acquaintances. But if she is in your social circle, and if your social circle represents how she is, i would walk away from the social circle as well.

best of luck

 

[El Payaso]

She did it on purpose. Big sign of disrespect. If you know what's good for you, delete her number and never talk to her again.

 

[Thorninmyside]

Let go of that which does not serve you. This friendship, or the autopsy of the situation, do not.

 

[Icegreen]

Ex girl to the next girl, bro

 

[IndeedSir]

So she asked for a favour, didn't turn up, didn't contact you, messaged you ten hours later and claimed it was an accident. This GIRL is walking all over you. Have some self respect man. I call women out on WAY less than that and next them if they protest.

 

[Speculator E]

Thanks for all the advices you all. I thought about it and dumped her with a text. She didn't like it and called me a a "fvcking weirdo". Here's the text.

http://i.imgur.com/CxwW3W9.png

To answer one of the questions on why I haven't dumped her yet is (honestly) because I feel lonely. I come from a very dysfunctional family. Most of my friends are losers. I've try to be a good person and follow the self-improvement path but I feel like no matter how much I try I can't fight my environment. I know the people in my life are toxic but I have no choice because the other option is to be alone. And most of past relationships has been with BPD chicks, in fact I seem to attract them. In fact this girl even has the danger signs of being BPD. Abandoned by her dad and mom and raised by her grandparents. But me feeling down I was kind of hoping it would be different.

Sorry guys. End rant.

 

[poo]

Hey man, you know what? we have all been there. I feel your pain wholeheartedly, in fact i come from a broken up family, my dad has cancer and my mom has severe bi polar disorder. But i choose to continue the path of self improvement and i choose to become the best me i can.

I understand that you feel like there is nothing you can do in your situation but believe me you can pull it around and make the absolute best of your life. Consider this, you live in a highly technological post-industrial country with massive amounts of opportunity. You have access to education, internet, nutritious diets and gyms, libraries filled with books for learning, forums such as this which give you a huge resource of people who are trying to better their lives as well, cell phones, doctors etc. You gotta look at the bright side of things man, at least you aren't in africa starving to death with HIV.

I would say that the majority of your inner issues come from yourself, not the environment you live in. Of course the environment plays a role, but i believe that if you were wholeheartedly optimistic you wouldnt care about this girl and you wouldnt be lonely because you would be so filled with joy that you have access to amazing resources and opportunity that you would go out and try and change the world for the better.

Pessimism has profound effects on the wellbeing of ones life my friend. I think it would be best if you took the time to alter your personality in order to reap the benefits of optimism.

here are a couple things you should maybe take a look at. I think that they would help you out, especially considering that the most important thing i think you should do right now is work on yourself.

http://www.wikihow.com/Become-Positive,-Happy-and-Optimistic

http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2010/03/24/benefits-of-optimism/

by the way, happy and positive is attractive, not that thats the reason to become it.


best of luck

 

[poo]

I say that you drop this girl, drop your toxic friends, find new ones, start working out and eating healthy, focus on your school, if your not in school, go to the library and read books, have a clean room and lifestyle, set some specific goals and achieve them. MEDITATE.

and most importantly, stop focusing on women, in fact dont even go after women or pursue them until you are good for yourself. Focus on making you the best you that can possibly be attained dude. Not for women, but for yourself, to lead a more positive life.

Just know that you can in fact get out of the toxic environment. You just have to rise above it yourself

 

[Dgwizdal]

Drop this b*tch. You're in afcville already: She doesn't respect you and is just going to be cvnt.

Somewhere along the way you lost your frame or she was a cvnt to begin with.

 

[Speculator E]

Drop this b*tch. You're in afcville already: She doesn't respect you and is just going to be cvnt.

Somewhere along the way you lost your frame or she was a cvnt to begin with.

I'm not an AFC. To give a little more background she's the niece of one of one of my friends that I've known since elementary school. He would be the hard core definition of an AFC. He basically supplicates to her, drive her around, and buys her things without as much as a thank you even though she completely disrespect him all the time. If she's a cvnt then she probably learned it from him.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Go hard NC from now in my man.

Do NOT reward bad behaviour. Punish it with your silence and nonchalant manner when you see her. Responding to her in any way - let alone apologising for no reason - only lessens your value even further in her eyes.

 

[Speculator E]

Hey man, you know what? we have all been there. I feel your pain wholeheartedly, in fact i come from a broken up family, my dad has cancer and my mom has severe bi polar disorder. But i choose to continue the path of self improvement and i choose to become the best me i can.

I am. My dad and mom are both narcissist and borderline and it caused a lot of hell at home. After college I moved back home and it was hell to work on starting a business. It was a mistake and I left. I'm still working on my business idea. But what depresses me the most was helping my younger sister move out of the house only to see her fall into a MLM/Pyramid scheme and she's basically brainwashed now. I had lots of hope for her to0 and I thought we could become a bro/sis team with the business idea I had but to see her do something that's a sure failure makes me ashamed and depress because now I have no more family I can turn to.

 

[Speculator E]

Go hard NC from now in my man.

Do NOT reward bad behaviour. Punish it with your silence and nonchalant manner when you see her. Responding to her in any way - let alone apologising for no reason - only lessens your value even further in her eyes.

Yep, that's what I'm doing. Thanks.

 

[om1xr]

Go hard NC from now in my man.

Do NOT reward bad behaviour. Punish it with your silence and nonchalant manner when you see her. Responding to her in any way - let alone apologising for no reason - only lessens your value even further in her eyes.

+1

And just for the fun if it was me i will just reply with this : " Fvck Off "

and next her @ss!

 

[JoeMarron]

What the hell...why didn't you just say "because you didn't have a phone silly." Why did you even bother bringing it up the next day and wtf was the dream sh!t about? Were you about to go into some seductive description of what you did to her in your dream? Then you ended it with a random goodbye..da fk? She called you a weirdo because it was fvcking weird. I'm beginning to understand why that Harry dude keeps saying texting kills relationships. Dude..stop texting chicks unnecessary sh!t.