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What's the best thing that has ever happened to you as a result of a woman? Did you become a better DJ, gained self-respect, or something else?
I think sometimes we focus too much an the negativity related to women. And it's true; they aren't angels and actually plenty of them are plain bad for one or have bad intentions. But there are a few out there who are positive and influential. What was that for you?
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This following long response is a true story. Do not read it unless you are ready to listen carefully and find out more.
Let me tell you something--a story about a teen-age boy:
He immigrated to the US at age 13 from a Latin-American country. He had always been a straight "A" student, but his family moved to a state near NY in the search of a better tomorrow moved. Off to a new start, he found himself in a middle school where people made fun of him; he was not socially accepted well. He struggled learning English, and felt like taking his life was the only way out. He felt like an outsider. He cried himself to sleep every night for months because he had no idea how life had changed for the worse so much. This was "the land of opportunity," not the land of frustration. However, not everything was negative; he loved playing the his brother's musical keyboard and listening to the sounds he could create; his father was a traveler and saw him for 60 days every six months due to visa issues. The boy's father bought his son a bigger, better, brand-new keyboard he had to put on his credit card because of his low-income background; he could barely afford traveling to see his wife and three children in the US.
So what did the boy do? He converted his embarrassment, anger, fear, frustration, sadness, suicidal thoughts, humiliations, and struggles into a motivation to learn. He learned English in twenty-six weeks and was found hanging out in his middle school graduation. About 80% of his grades were "A's." He was speaking English to a few friends he made during lunch, while struggling to communicate a few months ago. His growth was so great that that he was called to the principal's office to try to "study" him and his learning techniques. By now, he was the new kid who managed to win the talent show; he played a mix of his version of the latest songs on the radio on the keyboard his father bought him. He got a hold of all of his negative emotions and their power and turned it around to build himself into the person who others admired.
When high school came, the story repeated itself. This time it was much worse. He made it to the start of junior year with practically no friends; he was often alone and frightened about life and his difficult reality. A few months later, he had to make one of the most difficult translations of his life: telling his mother she was diagnosed with breast cancer. Feeling impotent to ease his mother's suffering, he withdrew from school and stuck to his mother like glue. He supported and helped his mother financially. He drove for dozens of miles to take her to medical appointments and sessions of radiation therapy; they was devastated, but he never allowed his mother to see that side of him. He had to hold his emotions together and be a leader who was there to support her mother in every way, but especially emotionally.
Time went by and he was out of school for two years in a deep depression. He talked to a therapist, but she didn't do anything for him. A few months later, he returned to school as a 19-year-old junior only to find out his few "friends" had graduated, dropped out of school either to work, do drugs, be gangsters or simply be a part of darkness. He couldn't take the shame of people staring at him wondering what he was doing in high school at his age (now 20 years old). The boy, now a guy, loved music and dancing. He always wanted to go to parties, but he had no friends. One afternoon, he did his research and a few days after getting his driver's license and he found an under-21 night club. He went to it for weeks and never had the guts to dance with any girls until one day he broke free.
He approached a couple of girls sitting down not knowing what the heck to say in the loud environment. As he sat down on a booth acting casual, he talked to a beautiful girl who had caught his eye earlier that night. As he talked to her, she couldn't hear him and she said "what? oh, you wanna dance? Let's go!" She, her friend, and the guy danced together; he ever took turns between the girls and sandwiched himself in between and they were loving it. Men in the club were staring at him with a "bastard!" look stamped on their faces. Long story short, he got into the PUA world and a few months after meeting and having gone out in a few get-together's, the girl asked him to be her boyfriend. They were together for 2.5 years in which the guy graduated high school only weeks before his 21st birthday while attending community college. The girl came from an upper middle-class family and the guy came from a low-income, first-generation immigrant family. The guy noticed many things the girl and her family had that he wanted he and his family to have; she was also attending a high-end university and the guy never had a chance to even know what college was; it was just never part of his family.
The guy always wanted to live in California and he had saved money from working during the time he wasn't attending school. He found out about a community college in Los Angeles county known for having transferred students to UC (University of California) campuses throughout that state. One day, he talked to his family and he told them he was moving to California. He didn't have any support from his family because no one in that family had ever attended college or know much about it, other than it was for "rich people." He didn't allow that to stop him and he drove across the country to CA to live there.
He paid tuition with savings. His mother got him a roof where he could live with her sister(the guy's aunt). He got into an honors program in his new community college, got a job, made a few friends while still being with the girlfriend he loved so much. A few months passed and his girlfriend started changing as she "couldn't take the pain" of being a way from him (she was in the east coast). He broke up with her and decided to stay in CA to pursue his dream: being in the first in his family to ever attend a university and have a better future without killing himself working crazy hours doing manual labor. He was devastated after the break-up and there are times when it still hurts him, but the girl told him "she'll find him in CA in 18 months when she's done with her degree and she'll be with him." He didn't buy it...or did he?
Time went by nonetheless. The guy, who is now a man, was really glad to find out his mother was on her last few months of chemotherapy after being in it for 5 years. During the times he was with her in therapy, he realized how many people were affected psychologically in this field and also in the middle and high schools that he had experienced himself. He realized he wanted to be a psychologist and it is now his major at the community college and it will be at his future university and grad school until he receives his Ph.D. After seeing his ex-girlfriend's life style, the man turned his life around in his mind and he is building his future to give his family what they have never had; he is a very determined student on the way to success and having his own business so that his family doesn't have to be humiliated again.
Moral: Don't let a negativity rule your life; the power is in your mind to view things from a different and more positive perspective. Your beliefs will make you or destroy you.
Not all of the man's issues have been solved. He has many things to learn in life as he is only 23 years-old, but he will get there. Lastly, he was accepted at an Ivy League University in California, where he now attends as an honors student. He also has a stable job where he represents the university recruiting community college students at a nearby school. The man was last last known to have posted a very long posting about a true story involving a 13-year-old boy, in a website where women are the main subject. He is a working progress and he will be somebody one day--and everything started because of something he thought he'd never have: a woman.
I think sometimes we focus too much an the negativity related to women. And it's true; they aren't angels and actually plenty of them are plain bad for one or have bad intentions. But there are a few out there who are positive and influential. What was that for you?
-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------
This following long response is a true story. Do not read it unless you are ready to listen carefully and find out more.
Let me tell you something--a story about a teen-age boy:
He immigrated to the US at age 13 from a Latin-American country. He had always been a straight "A" student, but his family moved to a state near NY in the search of a better tomorrow moved. Off to a new start, he found himself in a middle school where people made fun of him; he was not socially accepted well. He struggled learning English, and felt like taking his life was the only way out. He felt like an outsider. He cried himself to sleep every night for months because he had no idea how life had changed for the worse so much. This was "the land of opportunity," not the land of frustration. However, not everything was negative; he loved playing the his brother's musical keyboard and listening to the sounds he could create; his father was a traveler and saw him for 60 days every six months due to visa issues. The boy's father bought his son a bigger, better, brand-new keyboard he had to put on his credit card because of his low-income background; he could barely afford traveling to see his wife and three children in the US.
So what did the boy do? He converted his embarrassment, anger, fear, frustration, sadness, suicidal thoughts, humiliations, and struggles into a motivation to learn. He learned English in twenty-six weeks and was found hanging out in his middle school graduation. About 80% of his grades were "A's." He was speaking English to a few friends he made during lunch, while struggling to communicate a few months ago. His growth was so great that that he was called to the principal's office to try to "study" him and his learning techniques. By now, he was the new kid who managed to win the talent show; he played a mix of his version of the latest songs on the radio on the keyboard his father bought him. He got a hold of all of his negative emotions and their power and turned it around to build himself into the person who others admired.
When high school came, the story repeated itself. This time it was much worse. He made it to the start of junior year with practically no friends; he was often alone and frightened about life and his difficult reality. A few months later, he had to make one of the most difficult translations of his life: telling his mother she was diagnosed with breast cancer. Feeling impotent to ease his mother's suffering, he withdrew from school and stuck to his mother like glue. He supported and helped his mother financially. He drove for dozens of miles to take her to medical appointments and sessions of radiation therapy; they was devastated, but he never allowed his mother to see that side of him. He had to hold his emotions together and be a leader who was there to support her mother in every way, but especially emotionally.
Time went by and he was out of school for two years in a deep depression. He talked to a therapist, but she didn't do anything for him. A few months later, he returned to school as a 19-year-old junior only to find out his few "friends" had graduated, dropped out of school either to work, do drugs, be gangsters or simply be a part of darkness. He couldn't take the shame of people staring at him wondering what he was doing in high school at his age (now 20 years old). The boy, now a guy, loved music and dancing. He always wanted to go to parties, but he had no friends. One afternoon, he did his research and a few days after getting his driver's license and he found an under-21 night club. He went to it for weeks and never had the guts to dance with any girls until one day he broke free.
He approached a couple of girls sitting down not knowing what the heck to say in the loud environment. As he sat down on a booth acting casual, he talked to a beautiful girl who had caught his eye earlier that night. As he talked to her, she couldn't hear him and she said "what? oh, you wanna dance? Let's go!" She, her friend, and the guy danced together; he ever took turns between the girls and sandwiched himself in between and they were loving it. Men in the club were staring at him with a "bastard!" look stamped on their faces. Long story short, he got into the PUA world and a few months after meeting and having gone out in a few get-together's, the girl asked him to be her boyfriend. They were together for 2.5 years in which the guy graduated high school only weeks before his 21st birthday while attending community college. The girl came from an upper middle-class family and the guy came from a low-income, first-generation immigrant family. The guy noticed many things the girl and her family had that he wanted he and his family to have; she was also attending a high-end university and the guy never had a chance to even know what college was; it was just never part of his family.
The guy always wanted to live in California and he had saved money from working during the time he wasn't attending school. He found out about a community college in Los Angeles county known for having transferred students to UC (University of California) campuses throughout that state. One day, he talked to his family and he told them he was moving to California. He didn't have any support from his family because no one in that family had ever attended college or know much about it, other than it was for "rich people." He didn't allow that to stop him and he drove across the country to CA to live there.
He paid tuition with savings. His mother got him a roof where he could live with her sister(the guy's aunt). He got into an honors program in his new community college, got a job, made a few friends while still being with the girlfriend he loved so much. A few months passed and his girlfriend started changing as she "couldn't take the pain" of being a way from him (she was in the east coast). He broke up with her and decided to stay in CA to pursue his dream: being in the first in his family to ever attend a university and have a better future without killing himself working crazy hours doing manual labor. He was devastated after the break-up and there are times when it still hurts him, but the girl told him "she'll find him in CA in 18 months when she's done with her degree and she'll be with him." He didn't buy it...or did he?
Time went by nonetheless. The guy, who is now a man, was really glad to find out his mother was on her last few months of chemotherapy after being in it for 5 years. During the times he was with her in therapy, he realized how many people were affected psychologically in this field and also in the middle and high schools that he had experienced himself. He realized he wanted to be a psychologist and it is now his major at the community college and it will be at his future university and grad school until he receives his Ph.D. After seeing his ex-girlfriend's life style, the man turned his life around in his mind and he is building his future to give his family what they have never had; he is a very determined student on the way to success and having his own business so that his family doesn't have to be humiliated again.
Moral: Don't let a negativity rule your life; the power is in your mind to view things from a different and more positive perspective. Your beliefs will make you or destroy you.
Not all of the man's issues have been solved. He has many things to learn in life as he is only 23 years-old, but he will get there. Lastly, he was accepted at an Ivy League University in California, where he now attends as an honors student. He also has a stable job where he represents the university recruiting community college students at a nearby school. The man was last last known to have posted a very long posting about a true story involving a 13-year-old boy, in a website where women are the main subject. He is a working progress and he will be somebody one day--and everything started because of something he thought he'd never have: a woman.
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