"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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whats so special about deadlifts?

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i know they target the back, but specifically what part?

if i want to get my lats big, is this the best exercise for them?
and how much weight should i do, i mean should i go for a 10 rep set for a few sets or like 6-8 for a few sets (meaning higher weight)

and what about bent over rows?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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thanks!
would it be wise to do squats one day and deadlifts the next?

and if im doing curls and flyes and stuff like that, working out biceps and shoulders and etc already, will adding in deadlift help a lot or is it wiser to take out the isolated movements?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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kickureface said:
thanks!
would it be wise to do squats one day and deadlifts the next?

and if im doing curls and flyes and stuff like that, working out biceps and shoulders and etc already, will adding in deadlift help a lot or is it wiser to take out the isolated movements?
No, definitely not. Your muscles need time to repair in order for them to get bigger and stronger, and heavy deadlifts followed by heavy squats the next day would be detrimental to that. I normally rotate between having squat and deadlift variations in my program. It's possible to have both in the same program, but make sure you give yourself enough time to recover between those workouts.

Deadlifts will help add mass all over your body. I would generally stay away from most isos such as bicep curls, shoulder raises, tricep extensions until you have added significant mass with compound exercises, as they will give you the best bang for your buck. Then you can use isos to correct any imbalances you may feel you have with your physique.
 

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Squats one day then deadlift the next is feasible, depending on your genetics & lifestyle. In my experience its best to give them a few days between but I've been kind of out of the weights scene lately, relying on my martial arts classes for muscle gains, and I've never really had a good clean bulk beyond 20 lbs.

For some people's lifestyles that may be the only option. Try it out, don't get injured.

and if im doing curls and flyes and stuff like that, working out biceps and shoulders and etc already, will adding in deadlift help a lot or is it wiser to take out the isolated movements?
It depends primarily on two factors in my mind: 1) How old you are and 2) How long you've been in shape. Your recovery time will play a large part in your routine. Take people's advice, but don't rely on their advice, rely on your results.

I think its time again to say that you should measure them by tracking additions to your weighted lifts and tracking your body weight & bodyfat. Always rely on those results and other factors like injuries rather than following strict advice.
 
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kickureface said:
thanks!
would it be wise to do squats one day and deadlifts the next?

and if im doing curls and flyes and stuff like that, working out biceps and shoulders and etc already, will adding in deadlift help a lot or is it wiser to take out the isolated movements?

I personally would do like Deads on Monday and Squats on friday. you have a few days rest in between each. 3 Active days from deads-squats and 2 hopefully relaxed days (weekend) from squats-deads.
 
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