Whats next?

[Ambition Now]

Alright, here is the situation.
Girl really pissed me off asking me to do something that i considered it was out of my morality code. I said no to her, and got pissed with her.

At first she reacted in a very childish way, but after some time she said she was sorry for asking me that and I forgived her but my feelings was still kind of hurt.

Im not going into details, but I thought it was disrespectful and I got pissed with her, this happened 6 days ago and it was one day before her birthday.
On the day of her birthday I was still pissed with her and I decided to drop her birthday gift at her home without talking to her. I wasnt in the mood of talking to her at all.

Then she calls me crying saying that I was punishing her with that attitude (wich was not really my intention) like ive said before, i was feeling hurt and didnt want to see her face, and now she is not talking to me.

So I ask you fellows, whats next? Any advices on how to handle this situation the best way possible?

Thank you all.

 

[Kevin Feng]

If a girl is good looking (e.g high value) she'll bea ble to find an AFC to use as an emotional tampon quite easily.

"Don't be the emotional tampon"

I was seeing this girl recently and at this one point she brought another guy on the line and introduced him as "so and so guy", he seemed really cool but then she explained who he was, he was the nice guy friend that she had around for 2 years and she always tells me that he's always there whenever she needs.

I feel so bad for this guy, this girl is pissing away all of his time and he thinks that if he just puts up with her baggage, he'll get something.

I'd like to tell him, but there's no reason to, just makes me look like a douche.

Don't put up with a girl's drama, if you're in a relationship, and like her grandpa died or something, okay, be there and be understanding, but for random drama, don't deal with it.

she's just ****-testing you for alpha congruence.

-Kevin
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[TheBucketOfTruth]

What did she ask you to do? Why don't you want to say? Depending on what it is, the advice for you may be different.

Have you forgiven her yet or haven't you? You've either come to terms with it or you haven't, but if you've been ignoring her for 6 days I'd say that's quite enough. I can't really make any sort of detailed comment though because I don't know what she asked of you and why it bothered you.

 

[Ambition Now]

She asked me to confirm a lie she told to a friend we have in common so he wouldnt get pissed with her because something she did towards him, i refused myself to do that.

I told her that i wasnt going to lie to my friend just to benefit her in this situation. I told her that if our friend ask me something about this I would say to him that it is not my business (it really isnt) and I didnt wanted to get myself into this.

When she said to me that she was sorry, I said to her it was OK, but I was still feeling hurt and she knew it.

Im not ignoring her for 6 days, its been 6 days that we dont contact each other.

I dont know, I thinkshe is sh*t testing me right now although she got really pissed with the gift sh*t. The problem I think is that she is really used to AFC guys that she thinks that I am going to give into her drama and I am pushing myself not to.

 

[MisterMcGee]

Don't think about becoming more soft and such in order to made her "happy" rather than "mad"
If she can't deal w/ your sanity and level headedness, then you'll find out if she goes overboard with this.

Dating is a screening process to find someone compatible with you.
Dating is not an "am I doing it right?" test.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

So she asked you to lie for her, you weren't okay with it. Are you still hurting from her asking you this? If not, then is there an issue?

I guess the real question here is if you should contact her first (and if so, when?) or wait for her to contact you. That's a more difficult proposition. What is your relationship like? If you're usually in a position of power, then making a concession and being the first to contact probably won't do any harm, but if you're tiptoeing on the edge of her having more power in the relationship, things could be different. It just depends on the power dynamic.

 

[Ambition Now]

I was more hurt about the way she reacted when I refused to do what she asked me for. At first she acted in a very childish way getting mad at me because I was not doing what she wanted me to do.

Today Im not feeling hurt anymore, its been a week and I can forgive people who I have feelings for very easily, I dont know if its good or bad but anyway, Im really not trying to focus on her. Im just confused on what is the best way to handle this.

I dont want to be a pvssy but also I dont want to come out as an insensitive intolerant jerk.