What's my problem with socializing according to this thread?

[RichardTheFrog]

So I've identified the problem as "the manner in which I socialize," (even if most of the time, that means that I DON'T socialize).

I got tired of "house flipping" so I went to this bar (actually two) that I had never been to before because I'm never in that area of town.

These are the notes I wrote on my phone during this time, which was probably 1-2 hours between the two places.

I first wrote that people annoy me. Especially guys who think they are tough, smart, or super valuable, because it is most likely based on nothing. They have false confidence and have never been broken down or faced real hardship and I believe if they did, they would break.

I hate pop culture, especially hip-hop and I find it hard to believe that so many people actually like hip-hop music and take it so seriously. Like, are people stupid or what?

At one point, I was thinking about the other girls at the bar and I thought they looked stupid and pathetic, full of themselves for no reason, and not the least bit interesting. I wouldn't care if someone robbed them at gunpoint. I would never do such a thing, but I would feel like they deserved it to make for all the undeserved respect that they get and all the narcissism that goes on in their brain 24/7.

Football is stupid and unimportant.

I feel like I have lots of interesting things to say if I would actually talk. Flipping houses by myself is pretty impressive, I don't care what anyone says. I also would like to start traveling the world and should have the resources to do so. And what if I was rich also? That's super high value. Not to mention the bionic d1ck.

Sucks that I messed up my whole reputation with stalking charges on an ugly girl.

I AM NOT IMPRESSED BY FEMALE LOOKS. Now don't get me wrong, it's impossible for a guy to be attracted to anything else. But I'm saying... that even if the hottest girl in the world wanted to have sex with me, it would get old after just a few days. It's not worth having anything long-term just because someone is "pretty" or whatever. But sucks that I still want to reproduce and that the system would screw me and I just hope to God I don't have to put up with any pu$$y a$$ stepdad or anything I swear to God.... okay getting ahead of myself.

It is not my fault that females bore me. They just aren't that interesting. It's as if they are constantly trying to hide from the fact that they are human. They try to act like they are beautiful creatures who float on a feather, when in fact they take big disgusting sh1ts every day. Wtf is this about? Some defense mechanism, because it's pretty annoying.

They (most girls) would be seriously unprepared to deal with me and probably could not fathom how little respect I have for them.

All they have to do is take some clothes off and society will worship them. Isn't that pathetic? Could you imagine if that was true for you, as a man? Their entire gender is an embarrassment in my opinion with nothing to offer to the world. They should play a supporting role and try not to screw things up.

I think I have to be antisocial in a way that makes girls want to take their clothes off. If that makes any sense.

But despite of all this, both bartenders tried to make conversation with me after a while. Anybody who thinks that a bartender is a high status job doesn't know sh1t. My job is much more high status, much more impressive, and will be much more profitable.

The bartender at the first bar just started telling me how bored she was.

The bartender at the second bar made a joke and said "that'll be one million dollars" when I went to pay my bill.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Then when I got home, I started thinking what if I was a T-Rex and my arms were not long enough to masturbate? How would I get my release? I would probably throw money at girls tbh.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Richard,

I'm going to be very candid with you.

You need to get the f*uck out of your own way. The content and frequency of your posts is disturbing in and of itself. It's a fair indication of how you think, feel, and probably interact with others. Not trying to be a d*ick, but, c'mon man. Do you think your rants and how often you post is "normal" behavior? It's not--by a longshot. Shockingly (higher than I thought), your "like" percentage is .187. I've seen lower. Mine is .820 so I'm going to try to help you.

I think you did set some kind of SS record, though:

2267 posts/ 6.5 months/~30 days in a month/24 hours = 1 post every 0.48 hours. Almost one every 30 minutes if we're working on a 24-hour clock. If you sleep 8 hours, and we're working with a 16-hour day, you make one post about every 17 minutes. And you wonder what your problem is?

Hey guy, I don't have all the answers, but here are a few ideas for you:

1- Quit SS for a few months. Seriously. You're addicted to it. See my math above. It's ADD-esque.
2- Find a "cool guy" to go out with. You need to see a DJ in action to actually "get" what we are trying to tell you. I did this for a friend of mine who had zero clue. He was a nerdy, tech type with zero game. At least I taught him the basics. He saw me in action. A lot of it is natural talent and personality, so if you are just socially awkward, you'll have to work within your limits. Don't expect to be James Bond, Pat Riley, Aaron Rodgers, Ryan Braun, or Fonzie. These guys are all bona fide DJs based on the way they "act" and perform. They emanate and carry a very high SMV persona. You should shoot for Larry David, even he gets laid based on his comedic approach to life.
3- Make some girl "friends" or utilize the ones you have. They may give you some honest feedback about how you're interacting with other females. My guess is you're coming across as kind of a know-it-all, low SMV, un-fun, creepy guy. Good news is it can be fixed with some work on your part.
4- Hire a male dating coach in your town. Pay the $$ for a good one. It works. Ask around, Google, or get a referral. There are some good virtual ones. I personally know Dave Wygant (used in live in my city, friend of a friend). He's a DJ, a non-d*ick, and good.
5- Quit being so f*ucking negative. Women HATE negative, bitchy guys. It's weak. THAT's 90% of your problem. DJ's don't cry, *****, or whine, they f*ucking DO SOMETHING about it. Enough already.

Good luck.

Dash

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Richard,

I'm going to be very candid with you.

You need to get the f*uck out of your own way. The content and frequency of your posts is disturbing in and of itself. It's a fair indication of how you think, feel, and probably interact with others. Not trying to be a d*ick, but, c'mon man. Do you think your rants and how often you post is "normal" behavior? It's not--by a longshot. Shockingly (higher than I thought), your "like" percentage is .187. I've seen lower. Mine is .820 so I'm going to try to help you.

I think you did set some kind of SS record, though:

2267 posts/ 6.5 months/~30 days in a month/24 hours = 1 post every 0.48 hours. Almost one every 30 minutes if we're working on a 24-hour clock. If you sleep 8 hours, and we're working with a 16-hour day, you make one post about every 17 minutes. And you wonder what your problem is?

Hey guy, I don't have all the answers, but here are a few ideas for you:

1- Quit SS for a few months. Seriously. You're addicted to it. See my math above. It's ADD-esque.
2- Find a "cool guy" to go out with. You need to see a DJ in action to actually "get" what we are trying to tell you. I did this for a friend of mine who had zero clue. He was a nerdy, tech type with zero game. At least I taught him the basics. He saw me in action. A lot of it is natural talent and personality, so if you are just socially awkward, you'll have to work within your limits. Don't expect to be James Bond, Pat Riley, Aaron Rodgers, Ryan Braun, or Fonzie. These guys are all bona fide DJs based on the way they "act" and perform. They emanate and carry a very high SMV persona. You should shoot for Larry David, even he gets laid based on his comedic approach to life.
3- Make some girl "friends" or utilize the ones you have. They may give you some honest feedback about how you're interacting with other females. My guess is you're coming across as kind of a know-it-all, low SMV, un-fun, creepy guy. Good news is it can be fixed with some work on your part.
4- Hire a male dating coach in your town. Pay the $$ for a good one. It works. Ask around, Google, or get a referral. There are some good virtual ones. I personally know Dave Wygant (used in live in my city, friend of a friend). He's a DJ, a non-d*ick, and good.
5- Quit being so f*ucking negative. Women HATE negative, bitchy guys. It's weak. THAT's 90% of your problem. DJ's don't cry, *****, or whine, they f*ucking DO SOMETHING about it. Enough already.

Good luck.

Dash

If you're going to say all that, you should be able to post pictures of hot girlfriends you have or have had?

I go out all the time and seems like 99%-100% of guys have the same problem that I have. I maybe see one "player" every few months and it's often because they have money, like this lawyer that used to go down town.

I'm not worried about how much I post. I post a lot on other forums (real estate, home repair, etc.), that's kind of irrelevant to me.

I'm not convinced that there is such a thing as a "dating coach," but I'm POSITIVE that there are such things as scam artists. Just like the hundreds of PUA gurus or real estate gurus that you run into.

How can I come across as anything if I don't talk? I think I come across as someone who is content with themself and doesn't need females in his life.

James Bond is a fictional character. And I can now add you to the list of people who diagnose me with mental disorders that I don't have. Just like all the guys who call girls "crazy" or BPD.

 

[Dash Riprock]

If you're going to say all that, you should be able to post pictures of hot girlfriends you have or have had?

I go out all the time and seems like 99%-100% of guys have the same problem that I have. I maybe see one "player" every few months and it's often because they have money, like this lawyer that used to go down town.

I'm not worried about how much I post. I post a lot on other forums (real estate, home repair, etc.), that's kind of irrelevant to me.

I'm not convinced that there is such a thing as a "dating coach," but I'm POSITIVE that there are such things as scam artists. Just like the hundreds of PUA gurus or real estate gurus that you run into.

How can I come across as anything if I don't talk? I think I come across as someone who is content with themself and doesn't need females in his life.

James Bond is a fictional character. And I can now add you to the list of people who diagnose me with mental disorders that I don't have. Just like all the guys who call girls "crazy" or BPD.

I tried.

Good luck.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

I tried.

Good luck.

So you can't show pictures of hot girls you've been with?

 

[Dash Riprock]

So you can't show pictures of hot girls you've been with?

It is absolutely asinine that you ask SS members for pictures of "girls they've dated or f*ucked", on multiple levels. First, what is keeping someone from saving a hot pic of some chick off of Facebook or some other site and claiming they dated or banged them? Nothing. Second, unless someone is pulling a quasi-revenge porn move, who wants their current or former gf's picture plastered all over the internet by posting on this forum? No one.

See, THIS type of behavior is your f*ucking problem. For crying out loud...

 

[RichardTheFrog]

It is absolutely asinine that you ask SS members for pictures of "girls they've dated or f*ucked", on multiple levels. First, what is keeping someone from saving a hot pic of some chick off of Facebook or some other site and claiming they dated or banged them? Nothing. Second, unless someone is pulling a quasi-revenge porn move, who wants their current or former gf's picture plastered all over the internet by posting on this forum? No one.

See, THIS type of behavior is your f*ucking problem. For crying out loud...

I agree it's kind of weird. But there are some people on here who I immediately stopped listening to once they showed pictures of the girls they are with.

It's the only reason I listened to @guru1000 for so long was because he showed pictures of attractive girls.