whats my problem with relationships?

[gimmeyofonenumba]

I know this sounds horribly shallow. But right now im dating a girl, albeit she is pretty. I see better looking girls every once in a while, and think to myself, it would be impossible for me to go exclusive with the girl im dating. The girl im dating has alot of good qualities, nice,funny, good in the sack,etc. Yet i just keep seeing better looking girls, for instance i saw this one girl in class twice, and i approached her the second time seeing her, turns out she had a bf. No biggie. Yet, as i was sitting waiting for class to end, it hit me that i'd completely forget about the girl i was dating if i was to hook up with the girl i approached. What is the solution? i wonder how people with average looking girls even get engaged.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Have you defined what you want in a woman? This isn't the same as just picking what you like in your current one, I mean being able to say (if you were single) "this is what I want in a woman." Without knowing this you will always wonder about a BBD because you'll have no idea when you're actually satisfied.

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

nope. Never really defined it. I have a pretty good idea of what it is though, and my definitions are pretty wide.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

nope. Never really defined it. I have a pretty good idea of what it is though, and my definitions are pretty wide.

Therein lies your problem. It's like parents who take there kids out to get icecream to one of those shops that have 102 different flavors. Unless the kid knows what he wants before he gets there he's going to spend a half an hour just trying to decide which one he wants.

He'll walk up and down the counter four or five times before he'll even narrowed it down to the three or four that he wants. His folks are tired of waiting and just lets him pick three that he can take home in a cup. The trouble in your case is that the chance of you picking up three at one time is slim. Just go in having a good understanding what you want as apposed to just what you like.

 

[Mavrick]

It's like parents who take there kids out to get icecream to one of those shops that have 102 different flavors. Unless the kid knows what he wants before he gets there he's going to spend a half an hour just trying to decide which one he wants.

He'll walk up and down the counter four or five times before he'll even narrowed it down to the three or four that he wants. His folks are tired of waiting and just lets him pick three that he can take home in a cup.

Nice analogy.

 

[Axcell]

Therein lies your problem. It's like parents who take there kids out to get icecream to one of those shops that have 102 different flavors. Unless the kid knows what he wants before he gets there he's going to spend a half an hour just trying to decide which one he wants.

He'll walk up and down the counter four or five times before he'll even narrowed it down to the three or four that he wants. His folks are tired of waiting and just lets him pick three that he can take home in a cup. The trouble in your case is that the chance of you picking up three at one time is slim. Just go in having a good understanding what you want as apposed to just what you like.

I agree with Mav, nicely put.

Figure out what you what in a girl, but I won't lie, the thing about girls is that there will ALWAYS be another better. That's the best thing.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I agree with Mav, nicely put.

Thank you.

Figure out what you what in a girl, but I won't lie, the thing about girls is that there will ALWAYS be another better. That's the best thing.

Well WTF??!! :cuss:You made it sound as if you were having a problem with never being satisfied! If it's not an issue, just keep enjoying it!

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Looks arent everything in a relationship. Maybe, you are not ready to settle down in a relationship yet. You should think about if you want a eclusive relationship or do you just want to meet n fvck all the HB's...

 

[Sandow]

thats pretty normal. the "grass is always greener on the other side," when its really not. if your like me, I get pretty bored quickly. i then start looking elsewhere taking what i got for granted. It sort of sucks, you just have to realize that the girl you're dating has a lot of good qualities. however if the relationship starts getting sour and she starts treating you like dirt, then leave

 

[DonJuan11]

I know this sounds horribly shallow. But right now im dating a girl, albeit she is pretty. I see better looking girls every once in a while, and think to myself, it would be impossible for me to go exclusive with the girl im dating. The girl im dating has alot of good qualities, nice,funny, good in the sack,etc. Yet i just keep seeing better looking girls, for instance i saw this one girl in class twice, and i approached her the second time seeing her, turns out she had a bf. No biggie. Yet, as i was sitting waiting for class to end, it hit me that i'd completely forget about the girl i was dating if i was to hook up with the girl i approached. What is the solution? i wonder how people with average looking girls even get engaged.

The last sentence seems like you need to grow up.

The girl you are dating could be thinking the same thing as you. "I keep seeing better looking guys, how come I'm stuck with gimmy?"

 

[Jitterbug]

Girls in class eh? You must be pretty young. That's normal for a young guy with a healthy sex drive to constantly keep an eye on all the hotties running around. I have the same "problem", and I love it.

 

[MacAvoy]

I was gonna ask how old are you? Given your comments about being shallow, I don't think you should waste your time settling down with some women that your not totally in to. You should be out there sowing your wild oats and spreading your seed.

 

[DJDamage]

I know this sounds horribly shallow. But right now im dating a girl, albeit she is pretty. I see better looking girls every once in a while, and think to myself, it would be impossible for me to go exclusive with the girl im dating. The girl im dating has alot of good qualities, nice,funny, good in the sack,etc. Yet i just keep seeing better looking girls, for instance i saw this one girl in class twice, and i approached her the second time seeing her, turns out she had a bf. No biggie. Yet, as i was sitting waiting for class to end, it hit me that i'd completely forget about the girl i was dating if i was to hook up with the girl i approached. What is the solution? i wonder how people with average looking girls even get engaged.

I don't see anything wrong with you. I am the same way.

It is your choice and your choice only. If you don't want to be exclusive with anyone and know you can always get another hotter girl then why be exclusive with anyone?!

As they say in Scarface: "The world is yours."

You can do whatever you want .