Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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What's my next move with this girl? Post second date, still no kiss-close

BannedGod

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First date was pool, she seemed to be really into me, for some reason I hadn't kiss-close on that date

Second date, we went for drinks. Here's the kicker. Her eye contact showed interest, but the kino said otherwise. I tried three times in about 1.5h to put my hand on her forearm, and all three times she gently pushed away. Looking bad, right?

Whatever, I decided to invite her over to my place to watch a movie, to which she politely declined, saying she had to work early on her PhD proposal tomorrow, to which she justified herself by showing me an email her teacher had sent her.

I walked her to the nearest bus stop that she was taking, and I was really phased out by how badly it all went so I gave her a goodbye hug, no attempt at kissing. Here's the other kicked. As I was walking back, she was just starting at me, looking a mix of disappointed and shocked.

So on one hand, she didn't react too well on my kino, but on the other hand, her eyes said otherwise.

Now I have three options:

1) Get rid of the number, and wait to see if she contacts me
2) Text her in about 5 days to invite her over for a movie
3) Wait a full two weeks and act like said dates never happened, and try to re-initiate a third date and work on my frame better

Opinions?

P.S. She is LTR material, not interested in ONS - and by LTR material I mean I would be willing to date her casually (no exclusivity for now), now just use her for sex.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ARrocket

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#2. If that fails, do #3. If that fails, do #1.

EDIT: You'd be the best judge of this, but I have a feeling 2 or 3 days would be better, instead of 5.
 
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