"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This weekend I was down the shore and a couple weeks ago when I was down there, I saw this gorgeous hostess at this restaurant and she seemed about my age(16). So this time, I went up to her as I was leaving and said "Hey, I know this is kind of awkard but I couldn't noticing how attractive you are so i wanted to come say hey?"...and then I just asked her a couple questions and then I asked for her number and she said how bout you give me yours, so I did (but I could tell she wasn't gunna call and she didn't)....so the whole thing was kind of rushed and awkard and I could tell she didn't really know how to respond, but I would still say I have a chance, assuming I go back there to talk to her. So next weekend I'll be back down the shore, so what should I say to her this time?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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if you see her again just act friendly. Dont make it all akward. Make small talk. (Hi, How are u). Then tell her its too bad she never called because you had something real exciting planned. If she asks what just tell her there's only one way to find out.
 

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bay area pimp,

i like that man.. good thinking

ftballfreak,

u can go back and see her again, but i would first stop and think about the 1st encounter.. did she seem like she was into u? was she standoffish? i mean i understand her not wanting to give her # to a stranger but she shoulda at least hit u up with a text or even a call if she was interested.. only one way to find out tho..

hope it works out in ur favor dude
 

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How long have you been trying Direct method? Even though I don't think thats the defualt opener. (Not that it matters) But it takes awhile to get congruent to it. (Your Bodylanguage has to be super tight) Like you said, it was rushed which made it even worst. Next time stick in there instead of trying to hurry up.
 
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