"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ftballfreak880

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This weekend I was down the shore and a couple weeks ago when I was down there, I saw this gorgeous hostess at this restaurant and she seemed about my age(16). So this time, I went up to her as I was leaving and said "Hey, I know this is kind of awkard but I couldn't noticing how attractive you are so i wanted to come say hey?"...and then I just asked her a couple questions and then I asked for her number and she said how bout you give me yours, so I did (but I could tell she wasn't gunna call and she didn't)....so the whole thing was kind of rushed and awkard and I could tell she didn't really know how to respond, but I would still say I have a chance, assuming I go back there to talk to her. So next weekend I'll be back down the shore, so what should I say to her this time?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Bay area pimp

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if you see her again just act friendly. Dont make it all akward. Make small talk. (Hi, How are u). Then tell her its too bad she never called because you had something real exciting planned. If she asks what just tell her there's only one way to find out.
 

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bay area pimp,

i like that man.. good thinking

ftballfreak,

u can go back and see her again, but i would first stop and think about the 1st encounter.. did she seem like she was into u? was she standoffish? i mean i understand her not wanting to give her # to a stranger but she shoulda at least hit u up with a text or even a call if she was interested.. only one way to find out tho..

hope it works out in ur favor dude
 

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How long have you been trying Direct method? Even though I don't think thats the defualt opener. (Not that it matters) But it takes awhile to get congruent to it. (Your Bodylanguage has to be super tight) Like you said, it was rushed which made it even worst. Next time stick in there instead of trying to hurry up.
 
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