"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What's more satisfying to you.....

Floydispink01

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Attracting a hot girl and having good sex/dating etc.
or
Walking away from her and never looking back if she start's messing you around.

or neither?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ChrisFloyd

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How can #2 can even be satisfying is beyond me.

Sometimes it is just what I have to do (walking away), but it does not mean I gain any satisfaction out of it.
Unless you have some unaddressed insecurities, then you may get off on the feeling of having some kind of power over the situation.
 

wifehunter

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Attracting a hot girl and having good sex/dating etc.
or
Walking away from her and never looking back if she start's messing you around.

or neither?
#2... because I know it's only a matter of time till I find a better / hotter girl.
 

Alvafe

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neither, I don't find dating good per see, its a means for an end, so if she don't want to go out with me or open her legs I will just move on and try with another,

the 2nd is more a result of she failing to keep you, its her who should feel anything, you should not even care for doing this, if you did you wouldn't do it

I find more satisfying doing other things then dating or anything realated to woman, it can be nice and fun sometimes, but I hardly see anymore then that
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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