"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What's more important to you? Your career or your sex life?

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Alphamale1821 said:
I'm not saying that i can't hit those women but for my over all enjoyment i want to be rich and enjoy the life of luxury. I simply want to see how far i can make it before i die. I'm sure i will be able to **** women of high social value then me, but as a man i simply believe the man should be of higher value. Aside from that wanting to be rich isn't because of women. I want to be rich for my own reasons and thus date women of the same social class.

I don't see why you don't have time for both. Not too many business meetings on Friday-Saturday night. I think the question should be rephrased to career or a girlfriend that consumes too much of your time.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Keep in mind that sex can become boring, just as can traveling all over the world and doing all kinds of fun sh1t... although the latter is holding up better for me. :up:
 

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rrrrr said:
I don't see why you don't have time for both. Not too many business meetings on Friday-Saturday night. I think the question should be rephrased to career or a girlfriend that consumes too much of your time.
I should have stated that it's more of a balance. With me focusing on my career i work my hours for that week and then the weekend comes or whenever i have free time i hang out with chicks. By no means am i simply just working and having no fun with women. For me women just come with the package. I don't have to focus on my sex life because i know that any time i can get it. I focus on my career because tha's my life improvement. Women are simply part of my cruise. Focus on my career and have my selection of women is the way my life is. My balance is career/job during the day and women after work/weekends.
 

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oldsalt said:
Have you ever focussed on the former at the expense of the latter?

Sometimes I think that maybe not having a great women behind you can hinder your career progress in unforseen ways.

And that maybe putting sex first and job second actually makes sense because having a great sex life makes you more relaxed and able to succeed even more in your job.
Yep. No big deal though. A guy with no job isn't likely to attract a woman as quickly as a man who pulls in at least $35,000 a year. I'm not there yet.

Perhaps once I'm there, I can go further in the dating department. Of course, that isn't going to stop me from trying to date, but... yeah, nothing to serious.

I'm not at a place yet to be completely independant. So how healthy would it be do depend on a sex life?
 

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Nice. Sex is a great thing but it's not the only thing. A great career will help ensure not only sex but a lot of other important things in life. But then when you're a kid I guess that's harder to grasp.
Yeah, but sex with whom? The hotter the chick, the more she's gonna wanna see in the "Is he Going Places?" department. But careers that really go places are few and far between. I mean, take your typical large company. Even between foot-in-the-door and middle management is often a minimum of five years. But middle management's only small potatoes. By the time you hit the upper levels, where you're rubbing shoulders with movers and shakers and get to get off on how many people's lives you control, you're what, 40 if lucky, 50 if not? And too bad if you never arrive: 70 hour weeks for 15 years with minimal social life cos you were busy working on your career only to end up with a fat (and gaining) wife, two spoilt brat kids, a ball-and-chain mortgage and a boat (used once) in the garage is pretty steep! :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Obviously, I'm still a virgin, thus career is more important. There is a gf in the background keeping me at bay from what may be perceived ultimate temptations of spending money (i.e. such as buying porn, using prostitutes, or going on a sex tour, going out to pick up girls from model seduction artists) as relating to my sort of situation.

But you'd need money in order to go out to these places to get cheap thrills. So, in the back of my mind - spending money on a sex tours with plenty of available girls vying for your attention seems like the ultimate desperate guy's paradise. That cant happen unless you have a solid career.

The philosophy of this mind is to remain asexual, whether by venting by masturbating, or by ingesting herbal products that will kill my sex drive and liberate me from the tyranny of thinking of women/sex. If you cant beat it, then kill it.
 

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oldsalt said:
Have you ever focussed on the former at the expense of the latter?

Sometimes I think that maybe not having a great women behind you can hinder your career progress in unforseen ways.

And that maybe putting sex first and job second actually makes sense because having a great sex life makes you more relaxed and able to succeed even more in your job.

Definitely the career man-chicks always going to be there

To Quote: "First you get the money, then you get the power, then you get the woman" Scarface
 

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Career is your backbone. Sex is attainable and everywhere. Career is ALWAYS more important hands down.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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traffic said:
Sex life.

I'd rather be a modest carpenter hitting every piece of ass that comes my way than a powerful lawyer working 70 hrs a week and floundering at the expensive clubs every weekend night.
Nighthawk said:
I agree. I couldn't live without sex. I wouldn't be a virgin for all the riches in the world. Sorry virgins.

I would have to disagree. Having a great job that makes you feel good about your self and is financially lucrative is way better than being the bum down the street that has sex all the time with other bums. I rather have sex with women of quality.
 
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Frenchconnection said:
Money = Pvssy
yes indeed, am working my BS in Design , I am really comfortable not having stop signs in my career (knock on wood) like many of my other friends who have had kids or knocked up their gf's , when ever I strike up a conversation with a chick , it just makes you look like you have motivation, and some kind of direction in your life , as far as balancing a sex life, I would rather be out there having one night stands ,or having **** buddies, than be nagged all day by gf who just wants to be alone with you all day , besides I like having the privlige of saying no, and choosing what I want to do, I dont have to worry about some woman telling me how to spend my money or stop checking out the waitress , with a career you have money , you can buy the car , you can buy the clothes and you can choose to have all the ***** you want

I like to follow the words of scarface, 1st you need the money, 2nd you need the power, 3rd you get any woman you desire ( of course you still have to have game, money can only get you material things ,and access to many kool places, clubs, VIP, backstage passes, but its that inner game that gets you the 9's and 10's ) having money only sweetens the deal
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Frenchconnection said:
Money = Pvssy
yes indeed,I am working on my BS in Design , I am really comfortable not having stop signs in my career (knock on wood) like many of my other friends who have had kids or knocked up their gf's , when ever I strike up a conversation with a chick , it just makes you look like you have motivation, and some kind of direction in your life , as far as balancing a sex life, I would rather be out there having one night stands ,or having **** buddies, than be nagged all day by gf who just wants to be alone with you all day , besides I like having the privlige of saying no, and choosing what I want to do, I dont have to worry about some woman telling me how to spend my money or stop checking out the waitress , with a career you have money , you can buy the car , you can buy the clothes and you can choose to have all the ***** you want

I like to follow the words of scarface, 1st you need the money, 2nd you need the power, 3rd you get any woman you desire ( of course you still have to have game, money can only get you material things ,and access to many kool places, clubs, VIP, backstage passes, but its that inner game that gets you the 9's and 10's ) having money only sweetens the deal
 
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Frenchconnection said:
Money = Pvssy
yes indeed, am working my BS in Design , I am really comfortable not having stop signs in my career (knock on wood) like many of my other friends who have had kids or knocked up their gf's , when ever I strike up a conversation with a chick , it just makes you look like you have motivation, and some kind of direction in your life , as far as balancing a sex life, I would rather be out there having one night stands ,or having **** buddies, than be nagged all day by gf who just wants to be alone with you all day , besides I like having the privlige of saying no, and choosing what I want to do, I dont have to worry about some woman telling me how to spend my money or stop checking out the waitress , with a career you have money , you can buy the car , you can buy the clothes and you can choose to have all the ***** you want

I like to follow the words of scarface, 1st you need the money, 2nd you need the power, 3rd you get any woman you desire ( of course you still have to have game, money can only get you material things ,and access to many kool places, clubs, VIP, backstage passes, but its that inner game that gets you the 9's and 10's ) having money only sweetens the deal
 

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Better Job = Better Women

A successful man in life whom knows what he is about and goes out there and get on with it will come home with better quality Women.
 
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