Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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What's her motive?

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Girl responded to a bulletin I made on myspace. We exchanged couple messages from that before I suggested we take it to AIM (never asked for her sn but she just gave it to me)

Now I briefly met her a while ago through a friend's gf. She has had a bf for 2 years.

We talk on aim and I flirt hard not caring about her bf. Day later her friend tells me not to play games with her, I was like what? I'm not doin anythin etc. And she procedes to say how the girl was confused with my flirting and didn't know how to take it.

I inform the girl that since she's involved I had no intentions. Now what's weird is she keeps contacting me and asks questions out of curiousity to get to know me. Does she just want to be friends?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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This sounds like some seduction memoirs from the Jetsons.

Why not go back to 2007 and ask for her #, and have fleshy contact?
 

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Because she has a bf thatd react in a stupid typical vengeful way and I don't want any part of it. I'm just curious if she's interested in me beyond a friendship from her actions.
 
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There is no loyalty today - she is not his wife - she is being pimped for a season! If she IM's you then she is interested!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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update:

so we actually had a 3 hour conversation on AIM the other night and today (halloween) she IMs me and asks how my night went.

she then gets into how i should have gone to her house for candy since not so many kids showed up. we flirt a bit and i throw in a kiss remark and she replies "eww stop" i paid no attention to it

now i'm curious if she meant that "eww stop" if so why give off other hints at being interested?
 

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tryst type said:
update:

so we actually had a 3 hour conversation on AIM the other night and today (halloween) she IMs me and asks how my night went.

she then gets into how i should have gone to her house for candy since not so many kids showed up. we flirt a bit and i throw in a kiss remark and she replies "eww stop" i paid no attention to it

now i'm curious if she meant that "eww stop" if so why give off other hints at being interested?

Read, read, read...AND read some more!... http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
 

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Nothing in there I could find about my situation. Focuses on single girls.
 

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now i'm curious if she meant that "eww stop" if so why give off other hints at being interested
You might might not know this, so I'll try to bang it into your head. You MUST read body language. Please notice the caps on must. This is why you have to talk to her in real life. Otherwise you’ll always be wondering what she meant (which is lame because it’s a waste of time)

Now I’m just going to throw out a guess because in case what I just said doesn’t sink in, this is what you’ll want. I think she meant “eww gross” as in “please continue you sly devil because you’re so hot and I want you to do dirty things to me”

Now go get her and don’t forget to bring your confidence
 

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Dude, you can't flirt over IM. There's no flirting if there is no sexual tension, and you can't create sexual tension when the two of you aren't even in the same room. Unless cybersex is your goal then you're going about this the wrong way. You need to do this IN PERSON.
she has a bf and she contacted me through online. i'm just trying to figure out what her intentions are before i even consider asking to hang out and causing trouble to myself.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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