"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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What's her motive?

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Girl responded to a bulletin I made on myspace. We exchanged couple messages from that before I suggested we take it to AIM (never asked for her sn but she just gave it to me)

Now I briefly met her a while ago through a friend's gf. She has had a bf for 2 years.

We talk on aim and I flirt hard not caring about her bf. Day later her friend tells me not to play games with her, I was like what? I'm not doin anythin etc. And she procedes to say how the girl was confused with my flirting and didn't know how to take it.

I inform the girl that since she's involved I had no intentions. Now what's weird is she keeps contacting me and asks questions out of curiousity to get to know me. Does she just want to be friends?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This sounds like some seduction memoirs from the Jetsons.

Why not go back to 2007 and ask for her #, and have fleshy contact?
 

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Because she has a bf thatd react in a stupid typical vengeful way and I don't want any part of it. I'm just curious if she's interested in me beyond a friendship from her actions.
 
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There is no loyalty today - she is not his wife - she is being pimped for a season! If she IM's you then she is interested!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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update:

so we actually had a 3 hour conversation on AIM the other night and today (halloween) she IMs me and asks how my night went.

she then gets into how i should have gone to her house for candy since not so many kids showed up. we flirt a bit and i throw in a kiss remark and she replies "eww stop" i paid no attention to it

now i'm curious if she meant that "eww stop" if so why give off other hints at being interested?
 

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tryst type said:
update:

so we actually had a 3 hour conversation on AIM the other night and today (halloween) she IMs me and asks how my night went.

she then gets into how i should have gone to her house for candy since not so many kids showed up. we flirt a bit and i throw in a kiss remark and she replies "eww stop" i paid no attention to it

now i'm curious if she meant that "eww stop" if so why give off other hints at being interested?

Read, read, read...AND read some more!... http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
 

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Nothing in there I could find about my situation. Focuses on single girls.
 

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now i'm curious if she meant that "eww stop" if so why give off other hints at being interested
You might might not know this, so I'll try to bang it into your head. You MUST read body language. Please notice the caps on must. This is why you have to talk to her in real life. Otherwise you’ll always be wondering what she meant (which is lame because it’s a waste of time)

Now I’m just going to throw out a guess because in case what I just said doesn’t sink in, this is what you’ll want. I think she meant “eww gross” as in “please continue you sly devil because you’re so hot and I want you to do dirty things to me”

Now go get her and don’t forget to bring your confidence
 

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Dude, you can't flirt over IM. There's no flirting if there is no sexual tension, and you can't create sexual tension when the two of you aren't even in the same room. Unless cybersex is your goal then you're going about this the wrong way. You need to do this IN PERSON.
she has a bf and she contacted me through online. i'm just trying to figure out what her intentions are before i even consider asking to hang out and causing trouble to myself.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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