"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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blackhatter

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just a little disclaimer here - i'm not asking for personal advice of what I need to do here. I'm aware of what needs to be done. I'm just wondering what is running through the femine's head!

In short - Ex GF and I of almost 2 years. The past 6 months we've been on a break, pretty much having fun getting with whoever etc.

The past month or so we've been a lot closer and have been ****ing frequently. She's slept over some and I have aswell. 4 Nights ago she wakes me in my sleep and says to me "I want us to be together now! I need to know we are now or I need to move on!" Calmly I told her "listen, things like this happen, I'm not going to force it. We're two adults having fun and if things become more, they will. Finally, she calmed down and went to sleep.

Went out to dinner last night and had a good time. Of course the conversation comes up of girls I have ****ed while we were on break and she mentions that she thinks I was a little "desperate" with some of the girls I got with.

Comes over tonight and tells me that too much has passed and while she still loves me, she doesn't love me the way she used to because of what has happened between us. She then brings up how "eventually I hope we will be friends." I was in a rush so she says "well can i come over later tonight?"

Ha, like wtf does this girl want? First she begs for something, now she tells me that it won't work. Where I stand, I just want a FB for now so I don't care all that much (although, yes I do still have some feelings for her).

Anyways, as the past tells, She will ultimately be back asking for something. wtf is with women?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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AKA FLEX

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Despite her wishy-washy emotions, you've pretty much got guaranteed sex whenever you want it. Obviously, you know (or at least you SHOULD) that you need to keep your emotions out of this one. Which leaves one question: is the sex good enough to deal with her drama and bulls---?
 

DonGorgon

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You rejected her brilliantly and she is trying to turn it around so she can reject you. Oh and her ego needs to know that you still want her back Notice how the focus is on you and who you F'ed!? She will never tell you about all the F'ing she did and will keep doing. typical female games
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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PectoralisMajor

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looks like she's testing you....you held off on the question about the relationship WELL.

as for the f'ing other girls, NEVER answer this, it has no bearing on your current relationship, and its in the past. water under the bridge.

there's no denying, you have your hands full with this one. Suggest you keep your emotions at bay, dont get too attached, and be ready for her to walk.

to be honest, I rekon she's confused herself. We always assume women know what they want, and whilst SOME do, most dont - especially at this age. I'm guessing she's about 21-23?
 

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Yup she's about 21. I see what you're saying about women I've f'ed, but I've never been one to lie about things like that. I am what I am, I've done what I done. If you can't understand, then hit the road.

With that said, every time she asks about past women, I tell her "it doesn't matter." Of course she keeps asking and asking and finally I'm like "Fine! So what I ****ed a few girls while I wasn't with you. Get the **** over it."

Anyways, I don't know whether to keep this girl at bay just as an f-buddy or not. It seems every time I try to keep her as an f-buddy, she just pushes for more. And then when theres a possibility for more, she runs away. It's like a sick cycle. I think theres no turning back this time. I just might have to waste her and send her pvssy away else where.
 
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