What's happening to me.

[Canadian Catnip]

I have been having something happen to me over the last little while that I have never done before.

Lately I have been flaking on women. All my previous AFC life I have sometimes gotten dates and sometimes gotten flaked by women.

Lately I find myself flaking on women. It's totally not like me to do this kind of stuff and I can't figure it out.

After all aren't we men supposed to cherish any female attention that women throw our way?

These days when I meet a women and talk with them I find a lot of them to be either boring or really caught up in themselves or too masculine. I tend to keep away from those kind and flake on them if they ask me out.

Can anyone else relate to doing this? I am not bragging here that I have so many women chasing me that I have to beat them off with a stick. I just want to understand these new thoughts and feelings I am having towards women and myself. Anyone else here find some of todays women to be unfeminine?

 

[smooth guy]

Maybe you're looking for the right one to settle with?

 

[zapras]

I might know what you talking about.
The reason why I flake though is because i'm sort of paying back the women that flaked on me in the past. By flaking on these women. Makes me more of a man I guess.. Not very wise though
Not sure if its the same reason for you though. Only you would know that...

 

[Señor Fingers]

Zapras is on point. Your ego is wounded from past flakes and you are just building it up and giving yourself the power by being the flaker instead of the flakee. It's a revenge powertrip and it's not the most mature thing in the world to do, but we've all done it.

Eventually you will get past this phase and know exactly why you are recoiling, instead of flaking for flake's sake.

 

[AFC Savior]

i flake on girls too, but i always have 2-4 girlfriends that i am seeing, thus flaking on new girls when i just dont feel like seeing them, or when i feel like fcuking one of my gf's

if YOU are flaking and still remain a virgin, then go seek help

 

[Canadian Catnip]

I have sat with my thoughts on this and part of me has some anger towards women. I hate to admit it but I am probably flaking for the wrong reasons.

God I just want to be a normal person and not have to deal with all of these emotions all of the time.

There is some residual anger towards women in my past always having the power in any relationship.

She is the one that made the coffee date with me, she picked the time and the place. I guess inside I resent her being in control and making the move. I see her as too demanding. I'm feeling a little emasculated by the whole thing.

 

[DonJuan11]

I might know what you talking about.
The reason why I flake though is because i'm sort of paying back the women that flaked on me in the past. By flaking on these women. Makes me more of a man I guess.. Not very wise though

That's why porn is so popular. Makes men feel like men because there is no challenge to authority and she is ready and willing all the time.

I used to flake but then I realized that every situation is a CONDITONING experience and that's how you get good with women. Even if you don't like her, she might have a hot friend for you.