"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Volpez

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My Ex who was with me for 2.5 years, we still hang out often and still have sex now and then, but it's just sex or so she says, she said she is lonley and I do a crapload for her, or did atleast. I always took care of any problems ect and we still seem to get along great, but she did say she does not love me anymore.

Now things in her life are not that great for her, she is under a lot of stress, loseing her job, does not have much money and keeps saying how unhappy she is here, I can see why she broke up with me because I keep falling back into being a AFC, calling all the time, droping everything to go help ect, but sadly that is me, I do it for all my friends, but I am still the alpha with my friends which she has never seen me out with. But anyways, does anyone happen to know what she is thinking? I want to think she misses me and might want me back, but I think it might just be that she gets horny which still works for me, just not as well as I would like it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You are just being used for sex.

Most guys are fine with this of course but thats the only reason you get to knock it out with her from time to time plus she knows you and knows that you are a safe sex type of choice without any STD's and a person that she can keep at arm's length to satisfy her needs without giving you anything more, anything that you really want from her such as a relationship while she goes and searches for a new man to be her partner in life for however long.

The answer to this of course is to remove yourself from her life until she starts saying what you want to hear such as "I realize I really love you Volpez, I want a relationship with you Volpez, you are the man for me Volpez" but of course I don't think you'll remove yourself from her life to get what you want from her.

Rather I think you will continue to allow yourself to be used and disrespected all to get the golden pvssy that apparently only she can provide you.

And hey if you've got no other options it makes sense.

However if you are interested in learning the ways of the DJ the information is here and if you decide to walk down that path you need no longer be a slave to her poon and a slave to disrespect just to get it.
 

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Sounds like you're the safety blanket while see goes and finds someone better. When life gets her down, she comes calling.

You said that you do this for your friends too. Your intentions might be good, but the expectation you set is a bad one. You don't want to be the guy that everybody comes to for help and disappears when they are ok. Basically you are training them to use you and discard you. And, basically you are training them to take advantage of you. If you don't know how to control it, you will not be a happy man in the long run. My friend learned this the hard way when he needed help and no one came other than one or two individuals.
 

DJDamage

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KontrollerX said:
You are just being used for sex.
Used for sex? I call that dating.

She is a girl that doesn't want a commitment out of you 'cause she is looking for someone else. Start spinning plates because you are developing oneitis for this girl and its not healthy.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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I'd say she is keeping you around for sex until someone else comes along. Then, she want's to bring her life and drama into your world. Then, you going back to being the "nice guy" helping her out. Tell that b!tch to stop fvcking with you and move on. Is the pvssy really that good?

Like what DJDamage was saying... Don't let her become you oneitis and go meet other women.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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