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[Sansj]

Hey guys

I have some problems whit my girlfrind. In the last week she have been acting really strange and distant. So i hope somone could help me understand this and possibly give me a slap. think i really need it. hehe

well here goes..

Well to start with last week was great. We had alot of fun. Did things we havent done befor. everything was great. she was with me the whole weekend and we have som great bedfun. then on sunday she was abit strange and dident wanna play hehe. i dident care about that. So the day went on.

And now it starts..

Later on that sunday we were suposed to do somthing. And i asked her if she was coming. but she came with some lame noncens.. just met here for a smoke 5min or so.. notiesed that i dident get a "i love you" or even a kiss. okay i thought..

then the next day i dident see here at all. just sendt some texts. She was working i night shift. okay..

then this continiued until today. have maby seen here like for a half a hour this week. and i notised that she dident say or write i "i love you" and she stoped sending me some of the sweet texts that she did. shes been acting distand and like she dosent have time for me. Know what this might meen..but im stil comfused. :/

becus shes still sending me texts and calling me. but i dont feel that she cares.. Think im just paranoied and crasy.. AFC!!! i know:.. : / arg..

Tryed to confront here last night about the "i love you" thing. but i just got a answer. " well you dont say it that much eather" ..well i kinda do..

Shes acting like the time see had been talking to here ex boyfrind. distant and strange like now. i have a big suspision thats somthings not right and shes hiding somthing from me.. Or its just my head thinking sh.t up...

so what should i make of this? should i confront her about the problems im feeling or just play cool and dont give a crap. Losing interest in me or found a tone or somthing with here ex?. or plane simple like its here period?.. doh..

Comfused... Save or lett go? confront or dont care?.. Talk to her or not.. doh

Sorry for the bad writing!:.
Think i need a slap!..

Thanks guys. hope i could gett some advise..

 

[DJ Snake Eyes]

I say quit. Why should you tolerate that kind of behavior from her? You should value yourself more than that. She should save that treatment for people other than you. Just cut off all communication from her and don't even explain why you are doing it. Start talking to other girls and enjoy yourself, go out with your friends, join a club, anything to keep you busy and occupied. She'll probably notice this and start chasing you again.

 

[Sansj]

Your right. should not take this crap. But im not sure if i should confront here and talk about it and then cut her of face to face if things dont work. Harder to just ignor her. If she finds the time to see me that is... Should work right?

 

[Kuroro]

Walk away, if you find out she's been seeing her ex, never come back.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

You can dump her with no questions asked. Sometimes thats the best.

Or you can sit her down and say.. something like; "You know to me it seems you been acting different. And I don't know about this relationship anymore." Then, she will either agree or try to convince you to stay together.

Its your choice.

 

[mrRuckus]

If she pulls back, you always pull back in response.

 

[AKA FLEX]

What did the barber say? "NEXT!"

Your post wasn't entirely clear on this, but it sounds like you've caught her talking with an ex in the past and she got distant during that time period? That should have been where you made a clean break.

 

[Sansj]

What did the barber say? "NEXT!"

Your post wasn't entirely clear on this, but it sounds like you've caught her talking with an ex in the past and she got distant during that time period? T.

You nailed it bro. She have been talking to here ex befor. And then got wierd. i told here to never do it agen. but now i i think its at it agen. since she texts alot with somone and dont wanna tell who it is. and acting like last time she spoke to him.. So i NEXT here to night. Thats not the respect i deserve.. :/

 

[Jeffst1980]

Stick to your guns, Sansj.

The worst part about a girl acting distant is that she will deny that anything is wrong and accuse you of being paranoid. However, you can trust your gut on this one. Disappearing at this point won't do any go. You're going to have to be direct with her and tell her that you don't like the way she's been acting towards you. Don't get angry, don't judge her. Just tell her that you don't like the way things are going and end it. You SHOULD have a gf that tells you she loves you constantly, that doesn't break plans or avoid you, that kisses you EVERY time she sees you, and that doesn't act like she's hiding something. These are your RIGHTS.

If she's been great to you up until now, you can consider doing this:

If she begs, tell her you don't want to talk about working things out at the moment. Give it a week. If she's still begging to see you, tell her you'll consider hanging out with her. Make her prove she's worthy by exhibiting good behavior for a week or two before taking her back.

Again, if she's treated you less than stellar in the past (it looks like this is the case), don't bother.

 

[Sansj]

There. I did it... Hardest think i have ever done.
Found out whats been going one too.. almost.. " im not sure " she sad. well i broke it off and now shes begging me to take here back. Havent sunken in yet but im sure im going too feel really bad soon. well well.. :nervous:

 

[JimmyBizzle]

You're the man.