"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What's an interesting object I can buy (cheap) for my apartment....

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so on a date I can casually mention it and it will give the girl an excuse to "come back to my place" to check it out?

some sort of exotic cactus? hell if I know. :crazy:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I wouldn't buy something just so a girl comes back. Do you want her to come back to you or your object? If you wanna buy something; buy something you like.
 

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I have everything I need. Maybe I'll get some nicer art or something.

"hey, you've got to check out my plasma...blu ray movies look sweet on them!"
 

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Guy Incognito said:
I have everything I need. Maybe I'll get some nicer art or something.

"hey, you've got to check out my plasma...blu ray movies look sweet on them!"
Saying that you may come off as braging. You should just invite her over for a movie and suprise her with your nice tv.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I was being facetious about bragging about the TV. I guess cleaning up is as big an turn on as anything.

Just wondering what were some interesting things I could keep around.
 

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Saying that you may come off as braging. You should just invite her over for a movie and suprise her with your nice tv.
Yeah. I do this all the time.

Actually, going back the OP... get a stripper pole. You wouldn't believe how many girls I've banged because of this thing. It's deal closer every time.....really brings out the freak in girls. Get a good one though, something that's sturdy.

Having a nice TV is good too. Yeah, surprise them......I do that with my car too. When I'm about to pick a girl up for a date, I'll be outside and tell her to come down, and that she'll see me standing by my car. I'll purposely go stand by the most beat-up, old car in the vicinity. Then when she's close to me and the car, I'll start walking to my actual car (08 Lexus IS 350), she starts freaking out, like, 'what are you doing??' .....lol. I even sometimes will act like I'm trying to steal the Lexus and look in the windows and kind of look both ways before opening the doors. Then I tell her, "quick get in" ...

It's a cool effect. Most girls don't expect a guy my age to be driving a new Lexus, so it gets them every time. But you have to do it in a way that surprises them without bragging.

I think another cool thing you can have is not really a thing, but knowing how to make good drinks. It's a skill, but being able to say that you can make a great martini is a cool thing to know. Or give a massage, etc.
 

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that martini thing is good.

Don't know if I want to go with the stripper pole....its interesting but its kind of out of character for me (but not me of 5 years ago :) )
 

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haha that car thing is funny
 

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Here's a map-out, answer and even "field report" for you man:



MY ONE SENTENCE ANSWER....
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I'll tell you what:
The best thing is either alcohol or drugs ;-) (If she's into that of course).

IN CASE....
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I know why you're asking and I bet you've read some stuff by either Neil Strauss, Tyler Durden or some other RSD-guy. Either way man, you gotta think about the reason you're doing this.


SOME BORING EXPLANATION
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(or ... it could be interesting)

This is how it goes, for those of you who doesn't have a clue about "interesting objects" and all the other stuff talked about in this thread:


1. To bring a girl home you gotta have a excuse different then "Lets go back to my place and have sex (or do some other sexual activity).

2. Because, else, she'll feel like a slut (or at least very cheap).

3. So, you make up a slight excuse (or reason to come back with you) And here's where most guys go wrong:

IT DOESN'T MATTER IF SHE FALLS FOR IT OR NOT!


This means - You don't need a fancy pants TV or movie or anything. Seriously! Some guru guys would say you need something really cool that she really wants to see, but well... then she's not really going home because of YOU with a sexual intention, she's going home with you because of something external that caught her interest. Here's an example:

Me: Hey girl, you won't believe this but I have a "MONEY-ROOM" in my apartement, it's sooo cool. It's filled with dollar bills flying around, and I only show it to people that I find interesting and like. What do you say??? ;-)
Girl: Oh my god you're soooo cute, let's go back to your place!
Me: *Oh yeah babe, now we're gonna have fun together!*
Girl: *Haha looser, i'll go back with you, but it's not because I wanna have fun with YOU*


I mean, seriously - Do you want her to go home with you to check out some cool stuff... or do you want her to go home to enjoy time with you???


I ASKED MY GIRL ABOUT HIS
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Yeah, for real. I talked about this, she's a clever girl, and we discussed how guys and girls are different. And, to be honest, she told me most GIRLS make up the excuse themselves (at least in their own mind) There are two reasons for this, I believe:

1. She doesn't want to feel that she's too easy(i.e.: She's not going home with him with the intention to have sex)
2. She wants an excuse NOT to sleep with him if it feels wrong back at his place. Example:

Girl agrees to go home with some guy to check something cool out. The guy is all over her and she gets turned off. She gets a feeling of guilt, because she "went home with him" but now she doesn't want to "sleep with him". So, she can always make up an excuse like:

"Hey i'm just here to check out *insert cool stuff here* - Nothing more okay?"

So, to make a long story short:

The girl only needs the excuse. And, it's even GOOD if she understands you're doing it to sleep with her - It's okay if it's a total obvious one. Why? Well, because like I just wrote:

If she's going home with you WHEN you've used a obvious EXCUSE you're 100% guaranteed she's totally into you! (plus, if she's not into you she'll never go home with you anyway)


SUPER FANCY PICK-UP LINE
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So, what do you say? Last time I picked a girl up and took her back to my place was one year ago (today actually!) - We've been a couple ever since:


Let's-go-home-line #1: (Second date)
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(I told her earlier that night I won a bottle of champagne in a "sales competition")

Me: "Hey, you know that bottle of champagne, let's go back to my place and drink it - you never had a after-party with expensive champagne, haha, or did you?" (said in a optimistic, sarcastic, and suggesting way).

She: "Okay sounds good!" (thinking: *Hmm, god, he's picking me up... are we gonna sleep with each other now...? alright then!)

Me: (With sarcastic tone) "Cool, VIP-style, let's get a limousine.... hey taxi!"


So, to make it really short this is the whole thing:
Me: Hey let's drink champagne
She: ????
Me: At my place, let's go
She: Okay


DISCLAIMER: We drank the champagne, got very drunk, fell asleep, with our clothes on, in the bed.



Let's-go-home-line #2: (Third date)
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We went to a movie (I know what you're thinking, but there's nothing wrong with going out to a movie, as long as you wanna see the movie and you already know each other a little bit)

(after movie is finished)

SUPER-NINJA PICK-UP LINE:
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Me: Wanna drink tea at my place?
She: Okay

(This time we didn't fall asleep).


Thanks
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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