redskinsfan92
Master Don Juan
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Ok, been thinking about this problem.
Obviously todays world is not ideal for a man who wants to have children. The tradional route in the USA was courtship, marriage, then kids. The man provided for the family. The woman stayed home and raised the children. Worked pretty well for a while. Hell, my parents are still married.
Of course, we all know that's been pretty much ruined the last 50 years. It's a coin flip that marriage ends in divorce. Even more are miserable marriages.
So, what is the solution for you and I if we desire offspring? Not a rhetorical question. I want to see your thoughts and discussion.
Here are options I see. Not saying any or good or bad.
1. A man can still try for a happy marriage. The stats on this a pretty abismal though. I'm currently reading Aaron Clarey's Book of Numbers going over the stats. Yikes!
There is also huge risk for a man today. The family court system was designed for the old social contract. So, men are left footing a large bill for no good reason. Not to mention in my state you are automatically a babies father if you are married to the mother and cannot contest it. If you are not legally married, you can demand a paternity test.
2. Cohabitation with an LTR. A man could simply enter a commited relationship with a woman without legal marriage. Of course many jurisdictions have common marriage laws and such. There are also many of the same risks here with family court, really. You can demand a paternity test though in my state.
3. Harem. Of course ideally many men would like a harem of women like King Solomon, but that is hardly achievable for average Joe.
4. Knock a girl up and send her the check. Of course stats say your kid will turn out terrible being raised by only a single mother.
So, what are your thoughts? If some of you are fathers what has worked well and what hasn't?
Obviously todays world is not ideal for a man who wants to have children. The tradional route in the USA was courtship, marriage, then kids. The man provided for the family. The woman stayed home and raised the children. Worked pretty well for a while. Hell, my parents are still married.
Of course, we all know that's been pretty much ruined the last 50 years. It's a coin flip that marriage ends in divorce. Even more are miserable marriages.
So, what is the solution for you and I if we desire offspring? Not a rhetorical question. I want to see your thoughts and discussion.
Here are options I see. Not saying any or good or bad.
1. A man can still try for a happy marriage. The stats on this a pretty abismal though. I'm currently reading Aaron Clarey's Book of Numbers going over the stats. Yikes!
There is also huge risk for a man today. The family court system was designed for the old social contract. So, men are left footing a large bill for no good reason. Not to mention in my state you are automatically a babies father if you are married to the mother and cannot contest it. If you are not legally married, you can demand a paternity test.
2. Cohabitation with an LTR. A man could simply enter a commited relationship with a woman without legal marriage. Of course many jurisdictions have common marriage laws and such. There are also many of the same risks here with family court, really. You can demand a paternity test though in my state.
3. Harem. Of course ideally many men would like a harem of women like King Solomon, but that is hardly achievable for average Joe.
4. Knock a girl up and send her the check. Of course stats say your kid will turn out terrible being raised by only a single mother.
So, what are your thoughts? If some of you are fathers what has worked well and what hasn't?