There's this girl that I work with that seems to be interested in me. She's usually tracking me down to talk, playfully hitting me, and otherwise testing to see if I'm interested (she's a 7, but kinda taller that me). Well, I've thought of asking her out casually since I'm not after a relationship with her and would only be after sex (that's because she's moving in a couple months). I've thought of maybe just asking her if she wants to grab a beer after work, but since I work with her I don't want things to be obvious (especially to our coworkers, because for one I work with quite a number of cute girls). So, do you guys got any good ideas?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
What's a good way to ask out a girl that you work with?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Are you nuts?! The odds are stacKed against us men in the workplace. It can only lead to your firing. If the job is expendable then by all means. I've even thought about getting an extra job to mack on girls with, not caring if I get fired for doing it, but keeping my primary job as off-limits.
I even had this higher-up Virgin girl last Friday fondle me grabbing my arms and everything, when I asked her a simple question only she'd know about work. I backed away after that and ejected myself. I couldn't Believe she did that. If I, had done that, oh man, I'd be at the complete mercy of the girl, who would probably tell everyone what I did.
I learned my lesson from being fired, my one and only time being indirectly fired, a few years ago for Chase a co-worker. She blabbed a bunch of bs about things I never did to her and turned all the always-believe-a-sweet-innocent-girl co-workers and management against me, and I was fvcked. Only a matter of time, like a walking corpse.
I even had this higher-up Virgin girl last Friday fondle me grabbing my arms and everything, when I asked her a simple question only she'd know about work. I backed away after that and ejected myself. I couldn't Believe she did that. If I, had done that, oh man, I'd be at the complete mercy of the girl, who would probably tell everyone what I did.
I learned my lesson from being fired, my one and only time being indirectly fired, a few years ago for Chase a co-worker. She blabbed a bunch of bs about things I never did to her and turned all the always-believe-a-sweet-innocent-girl co-workers and management against me, and I was fvcked. Only a matter of time, like a walking corpse.
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If it's a part time job, don't listen to the naysayers. Nobody cares if you're dating someone you work with if it's a part-time job.
so what your saying is that if I suggest to a girl that seems interested in me that we go grab a drink or do something else that I'll get fired? Sorry buddy, but not buying that, it's not like I'm gonna make any advances on her at work, this will all be on our personal time.Poonani Maker said:
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
Nine times out of ten guys will advise you not to $$$$$$ where you eat. However, if the attraction is mutual and you both can be adults about it, pimping in the office is like shooting fish in a barrel! However, there is always that risk that the girl your initially meeting is not as cool as you thought.... so proceed at your own risk. Okay now that I got that little disclaimer outta the way...
This chick definitely seems interested based off what your saying. If your main goal is to simply bang her AND she's moving in a couple months you've got nothing to lose by going for it.
If you wanna move slow try and organize a group happy hour after work one day and see if she goes. Judge how she acts around you outside the office with a couple drinks in her compared to the casual flirting she initiates at work.
If you wanna move a little faster, ask her out for a drink one on one! Turn up the flirting a few levels and see what happens. Start bangin her now and you'll have an endless supply of pu$$$y lined up for you after she leaves because believe me...people WILL find out about it one way or another.
PIMP
This chick definitely seems interested based off what your saying. If your main goal is to simply bang her AND she's moving in a couple months you've got nothing to lose by going for it.
If you wanna move slow try and organize a group happy hour after work one day and see if she goes. Judge how she acts around you outside the office with a couple drinks in her compared to the casual flirting she initiates at work.
If you wanna move a little faster, ask her out for a drink one on one! Turn up the flirting a few levels and see what happens. Start bangin her now and you'll have an endless supply of pu$$$y lined up for you after she leaves because believe me...people WILL find out about it one way or another.
PIMP
Yeah, that's the only reason I was thinking about trying something, if she wasn't moving soon I wouldn't do anything (dating a coworker can get messy).Pimp-sicle said:
yeah, that's an option since I know she does go out for drinks out in a while with a few of the other girls and a couple of the guys we work with, but those outings are usually planned at the last minute so I'm not always around.Pimp-sicle said:
I'll probably ask her out for a drink one on one (though if other people want to go that's cool too) because we usually get off at about the same time.Pimp-sicle said:
Now my question is why do you think I'll have an endless supply of ***** if I bang this girl?
I second that, dating in the work place is bad that's why they have policies against it. However, at this moment you probably can't be convinced, but you'll know it when you see it.
It will become awkward as hell. It might even end up consuming you.
Even if it's just for *****, you will still develop feelings at some level.
It will become awkward as hell. It might even end up consuming you.
Even if it's just for *****, you will still develop feelings at some level.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
I got a great solution for you. Hand her a piece of paper and just tell her, "Write down your number", and make plans when you are not working and co-workers can't hear you.
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
about one month ago to the day this ho from work banged this guy we work with, Long story short That Monday she was telling everyone at work how she got "the short end of the stick" so to speak and claims it was PROBABLY the "best minute and forty seconds of his life" he is the butt of all the jokes now at the store and now she's telling coworkers and other guys we work she thinks he's stalking her even though he in fact avoids her like the plague and won't even look at her.
I don't get how she can ride the high hard one every weekend with some different dude
then have the audacity to trash a brother for being a little quick to shoot
let alone telling everyone the size of his business and HE's the one getting picked on
BE CAREFUL
I don't get how she can ride the high hard one every weekend with some different dude
then have the audacity to trash a brother for being a little quick to shoot
let alone telling everyone the size of his business and HE's the one getting picked on
BE CAREFUL
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lol, sucks for that guy. Though by the sound of it she just sounds like a b1tch. She probably told all those things to anyone that knew the guy just for her own ****ed up reasons (can't think of what those could be, because she would also look like a slut).K2000kidd said: