"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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what's a good response for this?

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1 of my other plates who I kissed on Saturday we were suppose to meet for a date tomorrow night however I didn't commit to a time as I was waiting for a different plate to confirm but she didn't so now i'm free to see this 1.

She offered Friday but i texted: I'd like to say yes but I may have to go to the company function, so I can let you know on Friday. Just in case, how's Sat or Sun night instead?

her: i have 2 house party plans to go to on the weekend but I might be able to bring a guest if you fancy it.

ME: no it's cool, if i can't make it for Fri we'll just schedule it for next week. You wouldn't want me giving my attention to other people :) I should only be flattering you with it.

today me: hey, it turns out i dont need to attend the company function so I can meet up tomorrow, how's 9pm at x place? if you can't make it, it's cool i'll make other plans.

I know I messed up, I gave her the option to not make it, I should have left out the lat part.

her: i think it might be ok as i might meet friends after work. Would it be alright if i let you know tomorrow?

what do i reply with?

obvious im no stupid, im not gona make myself look available nor wait on her to decide. I'll say i'll have made other plans by then but do you guys have anything better?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ugh.

Chill, man.

Just f**kin chill. You don't need a goddamn reply. "Cool." How's that for a reply?

You're good guy and all, but seriously, you need to relax.
 

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but i need to make her have an urgency she needs to see me or some other girl will. how do i convey that?

i know i'll have sex with her tomorrow if i get her out. i'm not waiting around on her to let me know, i already look too available.
 

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And you think something you say via text message will give her urgency?

Either she wants to see you or she doesn't. No one gives a sh*t about your texts.

The only place you look desperate is right here. On this message board. Calm down and stop making 100 posts asking the same things.
 

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big weezy said:
1 of my other plates who I kissed on Saturday we were suppose to meet for a date tomorrow night however I didn't commit to a time as I was waiting for a different plate to confirm but she didn't so now i'm free to see this 1.

She offered Friday but i texted: I'd like to say yes but I may have to go to the company function, so I can let you know on Friday. Just in case, how's Sat or Sun night instead?

her: i have 2 house party plans to go to on the weekend but I might be able to bring a guest if you fancy it.

ME: no it's cool, if i can't make it for Fri we'll just schedule it for next week. You wouldn't want me giving my attention to other people :) I should only be flattering you with it.

today me: hey, it turns out i dont need to attend the company function so I can meet up tomorrow, how's 9pm at x place? if you can't make it, it's cool i'll make other plans.

I know I messed up, I gave her the option to not make it, I should have left out the lat part.

her: i think it might be ok as i might meet friends after work. Would it be alright if i let you know tomorrow?

what do i reply with?

obvious im no stupid, im not gona make myself look available nor wait on her to decide. I'll say i'll have made other plans by then but do you guys have anything better?
110000% BS all around.. you are trying to play her and she is playing you... and her IL is very low... she has 1000 dudes she wants to go F over you
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I love reading about guys who don't get it get all frustrated over a girl on a text :)
it reminds me of my sad past lol
 

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to many wishy-washy stuff. When you are wishy-washy, the girl is wishy-washy. When you are direct, the girl is direct.

This is what i would do from your position now. I would text back "ok."
If she dont hit you up, dont hit her up. Wait till next week and then CALL her with a date, time and place for you guys to meet. If she says anything but YES, then forget her and next her.
 
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