The Shocker
Senior Don Juan
**** on the coats.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your best friend - yes. And if you want to be a friend - yes. If you want to hook up with her, set yourself apart from the friend (who buys a nice gift) and make her laugh. If you do a good job with it, like others here have suggested, than she will walk away with a smile on her face thinking about you and at the end of the day you end up in a better place than the chumps who shelled out a couple of dollars for a CD she probably already has or soemthing else.Noob said:you guys are friggin cheap!!! buy her a good dvd or 2 music albums... i got my best friend (who is a girl) a $40 watch...
Luke!! said:Make a coupon. On this coupon put "Redeemable for one sex session at you local Sethosayher."
It might actually work and you get the lay. If not it will be a humorous joke that wont hurt you either.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Crazy Asian said:haha i'm actually gonna do that for this one girl's b day this friday.
but should i say with me or dane cook? cause i know she's like obssessed with dane cook.