"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What's a dry spell?

Nutz

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A few weeks, a few months, a few years?

Where do you draw the line as to what makes a dry spell? And once you go beyond that what do you call it then?

Say you call a dry spell a few months, lets say 2 months, without getting any. What then do you call it when it's been a year or more?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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mothballs

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Any time when you are not getting it on and have no future nookie lined up...
 

Nutz

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So beyond a "dry spell" what would you call it?
 

theunflushables

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It depends if you're trying or not. If you're going out and getting blown out every night, yeah thats a dry spell. If you're too busy with other sh1t to worry about it or go out sarging, its not.

Beyond a dry spell, I call that marriage!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'd say not getting any for 2-3 months is a dry spell. Since I haven't gotten any in 4 years I'd say I'm living in the Sahara. I've forgotten what water looks and tastes like. My lungs are full of sand yet I'm somehow still alive. LOL I'm like the guy from Hellboy :p
 

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^ No Offense, but dude, if you have over 2,000 posts on here and have had a dry spell for 4 years, get off your computer and take advice from these forms and do something.
 

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mtlwlu said:
^ No Offense, but dude, if you have over 2,000 posts on here and have had a dry spell for 4 years, get off your computer and take advice from these forms and do something.
If only it were that easy.

My issues go far beyond the scope of this forum. When I first came here I was far below what is considered normal. Now I'm almost an average dude.
 

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MillenniumMike said:
Not going to lie, not getting any for 4 years is not average. One year is still really pushing it.
I was talking more about personality and social skills then sex life.

When I first got to this site I was a completely introverted depressed loaner with suicidal thoughts who was basically terrified of women. Now I'm almost a normal dude.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Damn. I forgot about this thread. 4 months later and still nothing. Not even a date. Had a couple of nights with crazy makeouts in May & June, but that was it. Probably could have pulled in a few of those instances too, but like usual they fizzled out and/or the friend comes along and c0ckblocks.

I'm tired. I'm just sick and tired. Night game is fun when it's fun, but that's when I'm out with certain people and they bring a certain care free energy with them that makes us all better and enjoy the night. I don't know how to do that on my own. I've learned now I don't have that in me. It's not who I am. So knowing who I am how I do I make women like me? That's the million dollar question.

<just thinking out loud here>
 

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Nutz said:
I don't know how to do that on my own. I've learned now I don't have that in me. It's not who I am. So knowing who I am how I do I make women like me?

<just thinking out loud here>
know a different you. a long time ago not talking to anyone except close friends was who i was, a few years ago i knew a me that was socialble and outgoing but still nervous around women, i still know that guy but hes adapting and evolving constantly.

You are a quantity of water, carbon and and a smattering of most elements, assembled together in such a way that you are capable of thinking, learning and adapting. the person you "know you are" does not exist, you are what you do, and what you are capable of learning to do.

try out a new you, new behaviours, new habits, new boundarys. In the process you will almost certainly learn a great deal about yourself, and as an aside, will learn to pull chicks :p

<also thinking outloud here>

On the OP's topic.

Ive not gotten any in about 5 months now, for me, thats a dry spell, its really really getting to me becasue before that I was in a relationship and was getting constantly for several years.
But it varies depending on the person. I hope to eventually get to the point where a dry spell is going anything more than a week or two without.
 
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