What're your thoughts about this?

[Kpocalypse]

Hey guys.

I've got a situation and I'd like to hear your thoughts about it.
I prefer girls older than me, girls around the age of 18. I myself am 15, so I think that my age prevents me from getting together with girls that I actually prefer. I look older than I am, so I'm not so much worried about the approaching part, just the part where my age comes up, like when she ask what I do. Do girls reject guys because of the age difference, even though they might feel attraction for them? Since I'm not so experienced when it comes to girls, I'm asking you guys. And one more thing, I know a lot about being a dj and how to use C&F in theory, but when it comes to the real thing, my brain just goes blank and it usually ends up with some lame "attempt to be funny" line. Any advice on becoming better at approaching and talking?

One more thing, I've set up this goal of mine to approach at least one girl I don't know everyday. The only time I get a chance to do this is on the bus ride to school and back (public transportation).
I set up this goal of mine yesterday and today I started to talk to this girl on the bus, but that didn’t go well at all. At first she sat with her friend, who was a really hot chic, about a 9. I didn't have the balls to approach her, so when her stop came she got of and I missed my opportunity. Her friend was still there and at first I didn't want to talk to her because she was really ugly, but I didn't want to fail my goal, so I just said F-it and started a convo which went something like this.

(I have no problems DJing in school with the girls in my class, but when it comes to strangers I can't do the same thing.)

Me: Hey, trendy bag you got there, what does it say on it? (She had a blue bag that was kind of shiny)

Her: uh, it's from the university trade fair in X. (there was this thing today where all the universities in the city gather on the same spot so that students can go and check them out).

Me: oh, really, was it today? You're attending a university next year?

Her: yes.

Me: What line are you in now? (Where I live you got to Gymnasium after 10th grade and you chose a line)

Her: Science. (Duh! the girl looked like a dork).

Me: must be a lot of hard work huh?

Her: yes.

Then there was this silence for like about 5 minutes. And finally my stop came and I got of.

Me: good luck with the choosing.

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Oh man, as I look back at it now I see a lot of things that I could have done much better, but I'm not here to talk to myself, so let's hear your opinions about this.

By the way, this girl was 4 years older than me and she looked like she'd never been approached by a guy in her life.

 

[DJ4Real]

You should have applied the c&f technique after the first line of that convo.

Never pause for too long. A quick pause, maybe about 5 secs max.

Overall, you had a decent start, but you the convo was very turbulent thoughout.

Next time, just try to relax.

Good Luck

 

[Boner da Stoner]

A lame try to be funny joke will always be lame and not that funny... Funny is something to work at, don't ask questions, direct questions are rarely funny, and they get tiresome FAST!!

From that conversation you made no real contact with her, you could hand her a questionnaire and she could fill it out for you with the exact same results, except she didn't hear YOU asking the questions.

What you NEED to do, is work on making comments and letting her respond to those, questions are a final line of offense when there is no material left to comment on.

So no questions to random girls, think of a child following you around or sitting near you and either telling you a story and not involving you at all, just "this happened than that happened because of that and OMG something else happened too" or, "whats this mister?" "where did you get it mister?" "when did you get it mister?" "mister, can I ask you a question?" "Mister what did you do to get it?" "Oh boy mister, that sounds like fun"

Would you start following the kid around just cause he was so cool?

Try something like "whats this mister?" "Oh? my sister had one of those, she sold it to a lady in front of the mall and she used it as a hat" Than you can add another question if she says nothing at all to you...

BS stories are what they give you to justify what they felt like doing... So you use BS stories to justify something you want to do