"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Whatever happened to "sleep with 10 women?"

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I remember making some whiney posts here back in the day and getting the answer "sleep with 10 women before you even think about her." Haven't seen much of that lately.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Is that really supposed to work?

If she's a recurring part of your life, you will see her while you are sleeping with 10 women.

Whether you allow her to control your emotions or not doesn't depend on how many women you sleep with.
 
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That's one way of getting over your oneitis: sex other women.
 

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Bible Belt likely just got tired of posting it.

This was his standard advice for a cure to oneitis.
 

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well, I'm not sure if it's the best advice in the world but it certainly drives home a message: we aren't here to help you with one girl, we're here to help you with a general attitude and skill set that applies to a range of girls.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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