"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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what?!?

Jake_tha_Boss

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i jus read SIRC's guide to flirting and i was on the eye contact section and one thing threw me way off "Once a conversation begins, it is normal for eye contact to be broken as the speaker looks away. In conversations, the person who is speaking looks away more than the person who is listening, and turn-taking is governed by a characteristic pattern of looking, eye contact and looking away" as a general rule ive always held eyecontact when someone speaking to me or vice versa this is confusing the fvck out of me
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Normally people don't stare at each other while talking...they naturally look down or away once in awhile. You probably do you just don't notice.
 

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The best thing I think to do, when talking to a girl that you are trying to flirt with, is to not break eye contact. She will more than likely look away anyway, and by continuing the eye contact it subconsciously asserts your dominance... or something like that. That's what I've gotten from my readings on EC, I just keep looking into a girl's eyes if I'm talking to her, although there's a certain way to do it without being creepy. You sort of have to do that deep glare, but while keeping the rest of your face casual... it's hard to explain, but meh, works for me.
 
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