In life, all existence has its opposite.
Heads has tails. Up has down. To exist impliess non existent. Rich must have broke. Black must have White. Masculine must have feminine. Positive has negative, and so forth.
With that in mind...anything you see in life shall be found. If you're looking for confirmation of 1 viewpoint which you uphold, you will find it. If you're looking to find awful, b!tchy women, you'll find them. If you believe clubs are the only place to meet, women, you'll go there.
If you've had experiences with failures with women, you'll reinforce them. If you seek riches, but believe in poverty, you'll seek lessons to prove your viewpoint. In any direction you can prove whatever you seek by the very fact EXISTENT in the reality based universe persuppoes duality. MEANING, in the plane of existent we know as earth, ALL objects have an opposite. If there never was, it'd all be 1 thing.
So for the guys who are posting what they are, not getting what they want, don't know how they're getting what they are getting....consider this, it's because you're choosing to see that part of the world as it is. It's not that I, or you, or he, or she has any better luck, we just go to seek validation for the good dreams and desires we want, rather than the bad ones we don't want. And even if you don't want something, saying you don't want it still means you must conjure up the image of it, THEN, cross it out of your mind.
This ain't a tips post, cuz I don't believe that in b.s. I believe in being real. Cultivating your innerself to become the outerself.
Yes, it's hard to override thoughts, to drop the fake 'alpha' attitude, to lay back, relax, enjoy the moment, and ignore the false feelings, but that's truer road to success. It's like everybody's got this little pile of cash, and everytime you get bothered by someone or some chick or something, you flush $1 down the drain. At some point you'll be emotionally spent and ready to pack it up. Most of the crap people do comes from some base of fear and insecurity. If a person were secure in themselves and who they are all the time, conniving schemes wouldn't be needed.
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A strange parody...you can get better lays and MORE lays by relaxing, evaluating you're stable of women suitors and CHOOSING who it is that you'll lay with, RATHER than cussing yourself out for lost opportunities.
Also, if you put HER needs before your's, and seek to only please her, porn-type moves aren't needed. Please a genuine girl, not some 1-sided phuck freak, and she'll seek to please you 10x back.
I was goofing around with a girl I've talked to for a year now, and it was the 1st time we'd really fooled around. She being @ college, there wasn't much time, and I spent a considerable amount of time building up a comfortable base to see if it was even worth it. Suffice it to say, she had her first 'o' from fingering and went home to sleep happy. Did I get a piece? No. I enjoyed watching her get her piece.
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Last comment...I'd say most guys find themselve swaying from AFC to jerk because they just never listen to themselves. It's not an EITHER or THING. It's an ALL thing. It ain't about being a man, just be you. You, for some people who are improperly conditioned with false beliefs are covered under poor programming. Fix it. Open your creative ways up. But swaying from AFC to jerk IS the same coin, yet opposite sides. It stems from fear/insecurity. Fear of getting hurt b/c your sense of self is so small and unprotected. And insecurity b/c you're fear of being close. Most guys afraid to release and let go can't because they can't handle NOT having control. In fact, you learn, that control is an illusion we don't have.
-you can be hit n killed in car accident
-your girl can cheat
-you company can go out of business
-your house can burn down
-you can plan life
Things will effect you, it's whether you let them or not that matters.
A better way to get what you want from this board, or any dating board is NOT, whether it's good OR bad. But whether it's HELPFUL IN GETTING YOU WHAT YOU WANT.
If a girl is probably not your type, and you gotta bend too much to date her, dump her.
A-Unit
Heads has tails. Up has down. To exist impliess non existent. Rich must have broke. Black must have White. Masculine must have feminine. Positive has negative, and so forth.
With that in mind...anything you see in life shall be found. If you're looking for confirmation of 1 viewpoint which you uphold, you will find it. If you're looking to find awful, b!tchy women, you'll find them. If you believe clubs are the only place to meet, women, you'll go there.
If you've had experiences with failures with women, you'll reinforce them. If you seek riches, but believe in poverty, you'll seek lessons to prove your viewpoint. In any direction you can prove whatever you seek by the very fact EXISTENT in the reality based universe persuppoes duality. MEANING, in the plane of existent we know as earth, ALL objects have an opposite. If there never was, it'd all be 1 thing.
So for the guys who are posting what they are, not getting what they want, don't know how they're getting what they are getting....consider this, it's because you're choosing to see that part of the world as it is. It's not that I, or you, or he, or she has any better luck, we just go to seek validation for the good dreams and desires we want, rather than the bad ones we don't want. And even if you don't want something, saying you don't want it still means you must conjure up the image of it, THEN, cross it out of your mind.
This ain't a tips post, cuz I don't believe that in b.s. I believe in being real. Cultivating your innerself to become the outerself.
Yes, it's hard to override thoughts, to drop the fake 'alpha' attitude, to lay back, relax, enjoy the moment, and ignore the false feelings, but that's truer road to success. It's like everybody's got this little pile of cash, and everytime you get bothered by someone or some chick or something, you flush $1 down the drain. At some point you'll be emotionally spent and ready to pack it up. Most of the crap people do comes from some base of fear and insecurity. If a person were secure in themselves and who they are all the time, conniving schemes wouldn't be needed.
_____________________________
A strange parody...you can get better lays and MORE lays by relaxing, evaluating you're stable of women suitors and CHOOSING who it is that you'll lay with, RATHER than cussing yourself out for lost opportunities.
Also, if you put HER needs before your's, and seek to only please her, porn-type moves aren't needed. Please a genuine girl, not some 1-sided phuck freak, and she'll seek to please you 10x back.
I was goofing around with a girl I've talked to for a year now, and it was the 1st time we'd really fooled around. She being @ college, there wasn't much time, and I spent a considerable amount of time building up a comfortable base to see if it was even worth it. Suffice it to say, she had her first 'o' from fingering and went home to sleep happy. Did I get a piece? No. I enjoyed watching her get her piece.
_____________________________
Last comment...I'd say most guys find themselve swaying from AFC to jerk because they just never listen to themselves. It's not an EITHER or THING. It's an ALL thing. It ain't about being a man, just be you. You, for some people who are improperly conditioned with false beliefs are covered under poor programming. Fix it. Open your creative ways up. But swaying from AFC to jerk IS the same coin, yet opposite sides. It stems from fear/insecurity. Fear of getting hurt b/c your sense of self is so small and unprotected. And insecurity b/c you're fear of being close. Most guys afraid to release and let go can't because they can't handle NOT having control. In fact, you learn, that control is an illusion we don't have.
-you can be hit n killed in car accident
-your girl can cheat
-you company can go out of business
-your house can burn down
-you can plan life
Things will effect you, it's whether you let them or not that matters.
A better way to get what you want from this board, or any dating board is NOT, whether it's good OR bad. But whether it's HELPFUL IN GETTING YOU WHAT YOU WANT.
If a girl is probably not your type, and you gotta bend too much to date her, dump her.
A-Unit