What You consume shapes your mindset

[Pumax]

Something strange has happened since I began this journey. What I'm about to tell you is something I think many here share too.

Have you noticed that when you read and educate yourself about female behavior, or you're on Sosuave, or simply talking to people about this topic, your thoughts and attitudes become more negative, cynical, angry, and lead you to dark places in your mind?
Or that you have just a very reptilian mindset to life?

Now, try the same thing, nourishing yourself with simple, positive, inspirational readings and happy people, and you'll immediately feel positive and liberated....
I discovered this when I started reading self-help books and hanging out with some very positive people. I noticed how these had such a strong impact on the nature of my thoughts, which were, in fact, more positive, and many of the cynical feelings, fear, anger, and doubt had given way to well-being, positivity, and peace of mind.

There's one caveat though: when you're in this "positive" state, you lose awareness and stop applying everything necessary to achieve SMV, the ability to read about social cues or women signals, in short, you become more positive, but also more "bluepilled".

I'm sure some of you have experienced both worlds. How did you manage to maintain a practical but above all positive approach?

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

You have to accept reality to be able to effect agency on that reality. Having the simple but often overlooked thoughts always running in the background; "I always have a choice." "This svcks, what can I do about it?" "This is excellent! Be sure to take a moment to enjoy it to the fullest."

I do believe that what you consume will have an impact on this somewhat. It's also good to challenge and push yourself to create as much (if not more) as you consume.

 

[Aguirre]

I think it is helpful to consume a variety of content at a given time. If you mix it up you won't dwell so much on a negativity.

Consider the negative mindset as you taking the red pill, learning truth and processing your emotions for the first time lucidly. It may be a necessary part of the journey for those who feel wronged by women or their blue pill conditioning, but ultimately one you overcome.

Also I think it's good to use humour and laugh at how ridiculous the world can be. When dealing with difficult people or situations I almost treat it like a Seinfeld episode. Everyone is a possible walking meme: the soup nazi, the close-talker etc.

Or, for example, amused mastery is a funny but useful concept, far better than anger or resentment that people might normally feel.

 

[Clockwerk50]

People are warned that after initially consuming Red Pill content, especially after years of Blue Pill / Disney conditioning, that there will be an “anger phase.” This happens because a man realizes he could be getting much more out of his marriage or LTR, that he is responsible for his own outcomes, and that he must fundamentally change himself to get what he wants.

The “anger phase” is actually a very important transition that needs to be gone through. Modern society gives men many excuses to become undisciplined and disconnected from their purpose since most guys come here depressed because their lives are ****ed up and they don’t know why. Without clarity, they just assume something is wrong with them. The ideal situation is to identify the problem and realize that it was created it, through inaction or by following society’s norms, thereby becoming a bystander in your own life.

Personally, the moment I stopped being angry was the same moment I stopped projecting that anger outward and started taking responsibility instead of blaming women from my failures. The emotional journey, beginning with anger and progressing to hope, curiosity, confidence, and ultimately happiness, is a real possibility for any man who comes here.

Any Red Pill content consumption beyond the core principles is just rage-baiting though for no reason.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Have you noticed that when you read and educate yourself about female behavior, or you're on Sosuave, or simply talking to people about this topic, your thoughts and attitudes become more negative, cynical, angry, and lead you to dark places in your mind?

Personally been doing THAT (Developing thoughts which can be labelled "negative", "cynical", "angry", and going to to dark places in my mind)since I was in single digits, eons before becoming voluntairly sexually active was possible

Frankly, any man who was unaware of just how gnarly a place this planet can be, BEFORE encountering Manosphere content, has a far more serious problem than gaining access to the inside of some broad's panties

 

[eli77]

I've been practicing stoicism for a year now and which I would have started sooner!

 

[RickTheToad]

Something strange has happened since I began this journey. What I'm about to tell you is something I think many here share too.

Have you noticed that when you read and educate yourself about female behavior, or you're on Sosuave, or simply talking to people about this topic, your thoughts and attitudes become more negative, cynical, angry, and lead you to dark places in your mind?
Or that you have just a very reptilian mindset to life?

Now, try the same thing, nourishing yourself with simple, positive, inspirational readings and happy people, and you'll immediately feel positive and liberated....
I discovered this when I started reading self-help books and hanging out with some very positive people. I noticed how these had such a strong impact on the nature of my thoughts, which were, in fact, more positive, and many of the cynical feelings, fear, anger, and doubt had given way to well-being, positivity, and peace of mind.

There's one caveat though: when you're in this "positive" state, you lose awareness and stop applying everything necessary to achieve SMV, the ability to read about social cues or women signals, in short, you become more positive, but also more "bluepilled".

I'm sure some of you have experienced both worlds. How did you manage to maintain a practical but above all positive approach?

I base my actions mostly on logic instead of emotions and feelings. The only difference is pain. When I am in extreme pain, and I can tolerate a lot, emotions overtakes logic. Just about everything else, I try to stay on the course of a logical mind.

I will say, while in medicine, I still try to have an emotional POV with our patients. On my real estate investments, the garbage BS I have to put up with from the tenants makes me cynical and dismissive to just about all of them. It's not really an emotional response, it's I really do not give a crap about your bullsh!t anymore. We will do what we are required to do and nothing more. I've issued three non-renewals in the last 30 days so far. Tired of their bullsh!t. It's not worth the headache.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I base my actions mostly on logic instead of emotions and feelings

Damned near everyone on the planet views themselves in such a fashion, same way most of us believe "I can handle myself in a scrap, even if I'm no Connor MacGregor". THEN:

-An engine on the Boeing jet we're riding home from Rio on explodes, and the plane begins spiraling nose first into The Pacific Ocean

Or

-We're set upon by half a dozen machete wielding MS-13 pounce on us in the parking lot at CVS, long after sun down

Overestimating one's own badassery is the most surefire way of getting one's skull busted open, both metaphorically and literally

 

[plumber]

at some point the entire game board becomes visible. you can see all the pieces and the moves they make. then insert yourself any place you like to be. it requires to stop trying to win and instead watch. the part before that, when first learning its all a game is ugly.

play or be played and... be kind not stupid. know who you are.

learn the patterns.

accept reality.

 

[Travel memoir21]

You need to be a minimalist and be practical when it comes to this. Take what is useful and take out which is not. You also got to stay positive at all times with a dab of practicality about which actions you should do next. Doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results is the definition of insanity lol.

 

[sevbucmash]

I'll just leave this here.

 

[RickTheToad]

Damned near everyone on the planet views themselves in such a fashion, same way most of us believe "I can handle myself in a scrap, even if I'm no Connor MacGregor". THEN:

-An engine on the Boeing jet we're riding home from Rio on explodes, and the plane begins spiraling nose first into The Pacific Ocean

Or

-We're set upon by half a dozen machete wielding MS-13 pounce on us in the parking lot at CVS, long after sun down

Overestimating one's own badassery is the most surefire way of getting one's skull busted open, both metaphorically and literally

You live a time on the streets with no where to go home, you toughen up fast.. real fast my friend.

 

[Solomon]

Something strange has happened since I began this journey. What I'm about to tell you is something I think many here share too.

Have you noticed that when you read and educate yourself about female behavior, or you're on Sosuave, or simply talking to people about this topic, your thoughts and attitudes become more negative, cynical, angry, and lead you to dark places in your mind?
Or that you have just a very reptilian mindset to life?

Now, try the same thing, nourishing yourself with simple, positive, inspirational readings and happy people, and you'll immediately feel positive and liberated....
I discovered this when I started reading self-help books and hanging out with some very positive people. I noticed how these had such a strong impact on the nature of my thoughts, which were, in fact, more positive, and many of the cynical feelings, fear, anger, and doubt had given way to well-being, positivity, and peace of mind.

There's one caveat though: when you're in this "positive" state, you lose awareness and stop applying everything necessary to achieve SMV, the ability to read about social cues or women signals, in short, you become more positive, but also more "bluepilled".

I'm sure some of you have experienced both worlds. How did you manage to maintain a practical but above all positive approach?

This is one of the reasons I try to take breaks from social media and the forums. A lot of guys are so stuck in their negative mindsets that, even if they were able to achieve looks, status, and money, they still wouldn't be happy if they found their dream girl. Look at the rising streamer Braden Peters, known online as Clavicular. The guy does meth and coke to stay lean, has admitted openly to paying for escorts, and every woman you see him on stream with is either mid or a pretty party girl at best.That's not even the worst of it: half of his streams, the guy is drugged out of his mind, and his lame incel audience cheers him on because they have a quasi-homosexual parasocial relationship.You attract what you are.