hey guys, just wondering how many of you guys actually do make cold approaches, just at a mall or whatever, of groups of girls- im in highschool, but even though i am good looking, i am intimidated to just walk up to a group of girls and be funny---- kind of like a poll i guess- be honest
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
what yall do for real
- Thread starter requested
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
originaldj
Don Juan
- Joined
- Dec 22, 2005
- Messages
- 160
- Reaction score
- 7
I dont either, I dont think I lack confidence its just that where I live high school kids dont approach other high school kids and I dunno if the girls will apreciate it.
ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
Well, take the bootcamp, its no fVcking use sitting here wondering about it.
I have acne over my entire body, my voice is monotone, I have a big belly, and I am slow at converstions. I make due with MAVEC though, good listening skills, reading body language, and guiding the topic...
I have acne over my entire body, my voice is monotone, I have a big belly, and I am slow at converstions. I make due with MAVEC though, good listening skills, reading body language, and guiding the topic...
dannowillbookem
Master Don Juan
going up to a group of girls AT SCHOOL can be extremely tricky if you dont know any of them, but if you have an acess person and can muster up an inside joke or comment about the class you have with her, go for it. but just a group of girls, thatd be tough cause at school people are very social-status minded and clique minded so you cant randomly go up to a group and get their number at school.
malls and **** is different, but theres been millions of gigabytes written about that so look it up and GO TRY.
malls and **** is different, but theres been millions of gigabytes written about that so look it up and GO TRY.
42-Colrath
Don Juan
- Joined
- Mar 18, 2006
- Messages
- 70
- Reaction score
- 0
- Age
- 37
yea i tried approaching girls at my mall today, but they were either too ugly for me or they were with their mom! the mom thing was horrible. any hot girl i would see would not be laughing with some friends but actually her mom. very frustrating today.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Docs
Banned
Moms = Unbreakable Blockers! You can't win! >.<
I've done it at malls,its just that sometimes we don't know who's an adult and who's still in school..asian girls are like that man,those who are 16-18 years old look the same when they're 20-26 or something..And those who are over 18 dont think of us as bfs,they think of us as their kids!I've had that once,the girl acted like my mom when I called her though she was just 24.I should've known better.
At school,yeah I've done it lots of times,even if the girl has a boyfriend.Its kinda fun and gives practice,and makes the other guys look bad in front of you.All the girls I consider my potential gfs right now are where they are with me because of cold approaches.There are 6 right now,hope to increase the number though.
Nothing to be intimidated about,really.Just read the bible and articles and you'll see the light.
At school,yeah I've done it lots of times,even if the girl has a boyfriend.Its kinda fun and gives practice,and makes the other guys look bad in front of you.All the girls I consider my potential gfs right now are where they are with me because of cold approaches.There are 6 right now,hope to increase the number though.
Nothing to be intimidated about,really.Just read the bible and articles and you'll see the light.
making the cold approaches has been a double edged sword for me at school; i made some really cute female friends, but then they slowly became JUST friends, some i tried to hook up with, some i did, and some who are just...not worth going after no matter how cute they are.
as for malls, it just doesnt seem that fun; i dunno why. only time im actually at the mall is when i actually need some clothes, and whenever i visit the stores, i dont see too many girls so malls arent as good as they used to be
PS: looks will only get your foot in the door; everything else has to come into play or you're just an abercrombie and fitch model with no CHARACTER!
as for malls, it just doesnt seem that fun; i dunno why. only time im actually at the mall is when i actually need some clothes, and whenever i visit the stores, i dont see too many girls so malls arent as good as they used to be
PS: looks will only get your foot in the door; everything else has to come into play or you're just an abercrombie and fitch model with no CHARACTER!
That's true. It's best to be a little better than average looking, and have personality. As for the **** blocking moms, I hit on them. I saw this one chicks mom, I swear, she was HOT HOT HOT. Like, I had to look on her ring finger to see if she was married. Dude, nothing like a MILF.