What would your dating life be like if you had Prosopagnosia?

[yuppaz]

Prosopagnosia - the inability to differentiate one face from another.

Look it up in google.

What if you had no ability to recognize that one woman was any different looking than another? How would that change your dating life? Take out the social problems that come with it, people's feelings being hurt because you don't recognize them etc. and look at how you would judge someones beauty, and how you would behave around women?

Why would you ever be intimidated by a beautiful woman, if they all look the same to you?

Would you get nervous around them?
What would you value most in the girl you wanted to be with? You couldn't even TELL that other guys found her attractive, because you would have problems reading her facial expressions, so no dating for ego.

I saw this show last night on this problem and it hit me like a ton of bricks. If you get intimidated by beautiful women now, but not by ones you don't find physically attractive (in their face), then would you be more yourself and not care at all if you couldn't tell the difference?

Wouldn't you automatically start looking for other qualities besides beauty and wouldn't your behaviors automatically make you MUCH more desirable to the opposite sex (aka you don't automatically show interest, no interest games to play because you really would judge / screen based on how they made you feel and who they were as a person etc.

I'm going to play with the idea of not at all differentiating one face from another as if I have this issue to see what changes. It pretty much takes ALL the power away from women (in YOUR psyche) and automatically puts you in a place of abundance (because they look ALL THE SAME and the only differentiators are who they are).

Try it out if you have an issue being intimidated by a woman's looks at times and let's get some feedback on this thread.

 

[EastWind]

Something I've learned over time is that trying to force yourself to see something differently based on the presupposition that you will act differently and receive different reactions with women will not work.

True epiphanies are really, really rare; the radical changing of one's personality in a short amount of time can only be brought about by (a) a overwhelming event, such as the death of a close one (b) a complete change of environment, such as moving to a new city and leaving everyone behind.

Outside of these two cases, changes to ourselves are made slowly, through tiny steps into the right direction, over a duration of months.

All that to say... in my opinion, your "if" doesn't matter because it's not realistic for all but some people. While the realization that we apply more worth to a pretty face than an ugly one is a valuable one, it's not going to change the fact that you do so because of hardened circuitry in our brains, which isn't going to disappear over night.

Instead of trying to blatantly ignore the fact that a girl has a pretty face, accept it and move beyond it. So she's cute... that's one item off your list. What are the other ones? For the beginners, there are almost none... but time, experience and this board will teach them.

Don't fight the bad wolf. Feed the good wolf.

 

[JumpOff]

Relevant.

http://www.reddit.com/search?q=prosopagnosia

 

[Who Dares Win]

Damn from the name I tought it was that syndrome which leads your penis to be hard for hours..that would definitely have an impact on my dating life.

Anyway on topic I see how this can help any of those guys with approach anxiety or who experience intimidation from hot women.
The only way to not being anxious is being self confident where confidence comes from achieving good result in hard task, being not intimidated from hot women happens when you no longer see them as superior to you.

When a line starts with "IF" most of the times doesnt have any connection with true reality, IF my grandma had wheels she would have been a sport car and IF I had a nickel for any time my humor is appreciated I could easily buy a bus ticket(with a student discount).

 

[yuppaz]

Good feedback - I personally believe it's a great idea to approach challenges in many different ways. Wouldn't exactly call this an epiphany but it is a new way to view things for me and more readily look at more important characteristics in girls.

Think for those like myself that probably OVER-value good looks it's a good exercise to imagine all womens faces being the same in order to consider what ELSE is really important in a woman.

Also curious how guys that have it do with women, does it help them, hinder them etc. I can only imagine it helps them (except for the recognition part..haha.

 

[yuppaz]

Damn from the name I tought it was that syndrome which leads your penis to be hard for hours..that would definitely have an impact on my dating life.

Anyway on topic I see how this can help any of those guys with approach anxiety or who experience intimidation from hot women.
The only way to not being anxious is being self confident where confidence comes from achieving good result in hard task, being not intimidated from hot women happens when you no longer see them as superior to you.

When a line starts with "IF" most of the times doesnt have any connection with true reality, IF my grandma had wheels she would have been a sport car and IF I had a nickel for any time my humor is appreciated I could easily buy a bus ticket(with a student discount).

lulz I got it.

Yes at some base level I must. I've been working on this for a LONG time and am having a very tough time shaking it. Any suggestions would be great.