What would you say?

[felony]

Ok, a so called chick friend invites me over to her house today to hang out. She's been a bit on and off this girl, and i thought today would have been a good opportunity to either get what i want from this girl or leave her.

She invites me in, we make some light conversation about nothing imparticular, and move into the lounge room. She sits down on the couch and i sit down right next to her.

Then without much further adieu i go to kiss her. I thought the time was right, i thought i had the right signals, i thought i would be manly, spontaneous and take charge and get things going. I didn't really care what she would think or say, infact i was sure she wanted it.

But she did the whole what are you doing thing and pulled away.

( WTF do u think i'm doing?)

I wasn't about to try and convince this chick and try to break any so called slut defences etc, her pulling out was enough, i didn't have much to say, i didn't wanna hang around nor did i want to chat with this girl. So i left pretty damn fast.

I feel pretty good about being confident to just go for a kiss without much mucking around, i feel good now that i don't have to waste time on this chick and i finally know one way or the other.

However, i think i could significantly improve my game with chicks when they try to pull out of kisses. What could i say? What can you do? You've just tried to kiss her and she rejects you!

Need some counseling,
felony.

 

[bp1974]

Edit: forget it.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

I had this same situation with a girl not too long ago. I next her!!

If she wont kiss you or respond to kino its a deal breaker.

 

[felony]

50+ views and only 2 responses. In fact there seems to be a lot of people on this forum that only view and don't reply.

Seriously, i felt i was in a bit of a tricky spot! I just went to kiss her and she acts all girlish and childish. That doesn't work on me and then she acts all grown up and tries to pull feelings / relationships/ meaningful crap to seek attention from me and crap like that.

Honestly what do you say?
Forget it sounds ok...

what are you doinG , that was rea...
..forget it...
and leave

other ideas to beat the situation, or haven't any of you ever faced this before?

f.

 

[Lothario]

"Pssh! Did you think I was going to kiss you? Sheez, I'm not Chester the Molester, I just thought I saw a tongue ring in there. But I might kiss you if you asked nicely."

 

[Big Pappy]

Okay, felony, I think every DJ and every DJ wannabe has been there. Heck, some would love to get that far!

So, let's take a closer look. You're at her place. Good. She's comfortable there. However, there's one of a few things happening.

She's sending mixed signals.
or
You're mis-interpreting the signals.
or
You're impatient.

I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and say you're impatient. You mention that you two sat down on the couch and you just moved in. I don't fault your ambition, but maybe your timing is off a bit. Most girls I know, unless they're liquored up or their interest level is really high, need a bit more than just a few minutes of sitting on the couch and some casual dialogue. Not much more, but a bit.

I liked the line about chester the molester. I can't say I'd use it myself, but it was funny. I'm not sure how funny the girl in question would find it, but it would have been better than what happened.

What's your assessment of her interest level? What did you base that on?

 

[E-Z Rider]

Originally posted by Big Pappy
Okay, felony, I think every DJ and every DJ wannabe has been there. Heck, some would love to get that far!

So, let's take a closer look. You're at her place. Good. She's comfortable there. However, there's one of a few things happening.

She's sending mixed signals.
or
You're mis-interpreting the signals.
or
You're impatient.

I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and say you're impatient. You mention that you two sat down on the couch and you just moved in. I don't fault your ambition, but maybe your timing is off a bit. Most girls I know, unless they're liquored up or their interest level is really high, need a bit more than just a few minutes of sitting on the couch and some casual dialogue. Not much more, but a bit.

I liked the line about chester the molester. I can't say I'd use it myself, but it was funny. I'm not sure how funny the girl in question would find it, but it would have been better than what happened.

What's your assessment of her interest level? What did you base that on?

Right on.

You have two possible scenarios when you go to kiss a girl: a) she accepts, or b) she rejects you. Your first goal should be maximizing the chances of "a" happening- you have to kino, and strike at the right moment.

However...I'll give you credit- striking at the wrong time is better than not at all. At least she knows you have balls.

Now...even though you hope for option "a", you have to plan for option "b". If she rejects you, you could give give her a line like the "chester the molester" thing. Whatever you say, you want to communicate that you aren't bothered by her rejection, that it's her loss (not in a vengeful way), and you have other options, so it's no big deal. You want to portray confidence in the face of rejection; keep a smile on your face. I'd exit quickly afterwards too. Then...if you so desire, call her up in a few days, and without mentioning the kiss or anything, ask if she'd like to come along with you and do something. Her answer here will be the final determinant most likely. If she says no, for whatever reason, just say "well, maybe some other time" and then next her.

 

[Big Pappy]

I'm not sure I like the idea of planning for option B, but I concur. A snappy line, a ****y grin will take you far.

 

[Lothario]

I'd like to point out the exact wording of the "Chester the Molester" line isn't what's important.

You are trying to ameliorate an uncomfortable situation. You were just rejected going in for the kiss so she obviously doesn't feel comfortable now either.

Humor and implying it's no big deal is your best bet. Getting serious, like asking why? will only exacerbate the situation.