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What would you rather have??

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Would you rather have tons and tons of money, but no social life..pretty geeky and always staying home but your RICH

or

poor with the best social life ever..everyone loves u. ur cool and everything but u got no money or very little

which would u rather have and why?
 

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She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"Money can't buy life"
-Last words of Bob Marley
 

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I would say poor but with a great social life.
After all, if you had true friends, and you were one of the coolest guys they knew, I'm betting they would help you out or even give you things for free.


Just curious though, how poor are we talking here? Like Dirt poor? Not a penny to my name, bum living on the streets poor? Or just maybe minimum wage poor? Behind on bills and deep in debt poor? Average college student poor who eats ramen or mac n cheese for every meal poor?
 

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illmatic1005 said:
Would you rather have tons and tons of money, but no social life..pretty geeky and always staying home but your RICH

or

poor with the best social life ever..everyone loves u. ur cool and everything but u got no money or very little

which would u rather have and why?

How poor and how popular?

See, with tons and tons of money, you can change your situation for the better.

Poorness makes it harder to change your life.

Now, popularity can get you money, if you know how to sell yourself correctly, you can use the popularity to gain money.

So, I suppose if we're doing "middle of the road" idea, I suppose it would be cool and popular.

Well, I've got half of both situations, (being a bit geeky and relatively poor) so... really, it'd be a moot point.
 

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illmatic1005 said:
Would you rather have tons and tons of money, but no social life..pretty geeky and always staying home but your RICH

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poor with the best social life ever..everyone loves u. ur cool and everything but u got no money or very little

which would u rather have and why?

You only live life once.....having lots of money and not being able to do anything with it and truly experience life would be a shame. But it depends on how poor we're talking about here.

You know, an analogous example would be in college, all the pre-medical, pre-law, etc... guys all think social skills, a great life, and women flocking to meet them without any effort on their part will be waiting for them after they complete their long education.
They'll probably have lots of money but chances are they never really experienced life and they'll end up "settling" into a "semi-arranged" marriage (they get "introduced" to a single female who's far from the cream of the crop) and having kids and living out their lives like that. Compare that to the guy who had fun in college and graduated, got a decent job but ended up experiencing life and living it instead of studying and worrying it all away. Which one would you rather be?

Not trying to bash anyone here or their life goals, I just think it's just more applicable scenario to the common man than someone being super rich or super poor.
 

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yea great point with the college thing...i'd rather be the decent education great social life guy...

also, im saying like minimum wage poor..not a bum lol
 

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I'd rather be rich.

I wanna be so rich that I could get the hottest escorts everyday.

I'd just buy me some friends.

Whoever says money doesn't make you happy is a liar and was probably never rich to begin with.

Get rich or die tryin'. :rockon:
 

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ChrizZ said:
I'd rather be rich.

I wanna be so rich that I could get the hottest escorts everyday.

I'd just buy me some friends.

Whoever says money doesn't make you happy is a liar and was probably never rich to begin with.

Get rich or die tryin'. :rockon:

Word! :rockon: GIVE ME RICHES!!!
 

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illmatic1005 said:
Would you rather have tons and tons of money, but no social life..pretty geeky and always staying home but your RICH


Your question doesn't make sense. What good is money going to do if you can't talk to people and or join things?

$1,000,000 and stay at home and watch Friends or $0 and stay at home and watch Friends is the same thing. With money you can make things happen but if you can't do that when you pose the question then who cares.

Girls don't care about money until they are about 25 and over, then they want someone who has done something with his life from 18-30.
 

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Your question doesn't make sense. What good is money going to do if you can't talk to people and or join things? QUOTE]

I mean having minimum wage, but everyone you meet you become great friends with and any girl you want you can get and you are loved by most people(besides the jealous rich nerds lol)...and any social problem that arises u can deal with it perfectly where both sides are happy

or a rich nerd who stays home and is a lazy bum who had no social skills whatsoever and they are so rich and lazy with such bad social skills that they wont open up oppurtunies for themselves.
 

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I wouldn't want any of these 2 extreme scenarios. I'd want to be both rich and socially successful of course. But I think a rich reclusive nerd is probably happy with his life just as a poor social guy is, so I'd pick the money for sure.
 

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I'd rather be rich, very rich. I guess it really depends on what you consider a social life..

I would like to be super rich have a hot young wife (with a good prenup) some mistresses and a few close friends. Do those things count as a social life?
 

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illmatic1005 said:
yea great point with the college thing...i'd rather be the decent education great social life guy...

also, im saying like minimum wage poor..not a bum lol


You know, I'm in college right now and I'm looking towards grad school as well but I choose to live a balanced life rather than play dungeons and Dragons all night and debate about quantum physics with other nerds (there are people like this, it's not a joke). Also, you guys would be very surprised on how many guys want to become doctors and/or make lots of money for the sole purpose of getting laid by hot chicks. A good friend of mine is deathly scared of approaching women so his solution is to become a doctor so hot chicks will approach him and have sex with him for his money.


At then end of the day, I think it's about balance. You gotta have money and a social life, I doubt there are too many people at the very extremes. Most rich guys will have people flocking to them anyways although that may not constitute a social life. And I doubt too many street bums are having the time of their lives at parties. But personally, if I had a choice between making something like 30k a year and had a great life or 500k a year but worked all day and watched porn all night, then I'll take the former.


Also, many super "rich" people are old, not very many people become millionaries/billionaires when they're in their 20s. You usually spend that time opening up a business or in school studying instead of having fun. Money can buy a lot of things but one thing I've learned by talking to old people is that money can't buy time. You can't turn back the clock no matter how much money you make. One relatively rich guy I know who's pretty old has told me that he'd give up all of his money to go through life and live it again instead of staying in school and working all the time. Just to throw that out there as well.
 

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1. if it's one thing I've learned.... life for a man doesn't really start until he's 35. Everything you've been donig up until then is just market research.

2. It's funny... women party party party.. then one day thye just wake up and say I dont' want the party guy anymore... he has to be the most flustered guy on earth. he was soooo popular working at A&F making 10 bucks an hour... now the guys that were shunned went to college, are working real jobs on wall street, IT compaines, law firms and getting their foot in the door of life.

3. I consider myself to to be one of the lucky few to have something resembling a social life and have a certain level of success. And even I think i work too much.

4. live with money is more fun with life without money. If you do it right, your career shouldn't be "work" anyway. What I do for a living now, besides waking up in the wee hours of the night and doing research, for the most part I 'm pretty social. Alot of "hands on learning". I'm at the track in the morning talking to people (it's where i meet my GF).. I'm at the track in the afternoon, i drink, I talk to people, I make chit chat... it's the best of both worlds to me.

5. I went from the age 18 to 21 without going on a DATE let along getting any, in the prusit of my company. to me it was a necessary sacrifice.
 
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