Something like 3. You should wait dont talk see other people for couple of weeks, then start over. I gonna give you my conversation as an example.
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I asked her for tea at her place in the evening previously, she had a friend coming over, she asked for a rain check...
ME: What's up XXXXX. Did you get a good sleep?
HER: Yes. I feel sooo much better!! How about you?
ME: Well, I kick my neighbors ass yesterday for parking too close to me, now I see him parking somewhere else, so I too feel sooo much better.
We having a tea at your place this evening! What's your address and number?
HER: Well being that I have two small children I don't normally just invite strangers over. I wouldn't mind talking on the phone a little before I acctually have you at my house. No offense, just like to be careful. Lot of weridos out there.
ME: I know, you could be a weirdo too. I don't usually go right over to girl's house for a tea. I like a coffee at a coffee place better, to see if chick is qualified to be with me, or not. . . What's your real name? You told me XXXXX, but your email says YYYYY.
HER: It's XXXXXX, and I can assure I am not a weirdo. Lina is my daughters name. If a chick is qualified to be with you? LOL..are you looking for a friend or more?
ME: So you want me to take your word for it, that you not a weirdo. Cute!! I have to look and judge, if you something I'm looking for and have the right stuff.. You never answered my question about tonight, remember the rain check?
HER: Yes, i remember. I feel horrible, but this week is kind of one thing after another. My sister is getting married so I have her friends coming by tonight to plan the bachelorette party. Sorry for all the excuses, but this weekend maybe we could meet up? I have a sitter Saturday night and am going out with my sister. We are still undecided as to what we are doing though.
ME: Um, too many excuses, I'm not buying it. I'm giving you an opportunity to meet a great guy... so... either we meet tonight or not.
HER: a little hostile?? Sorry my life and commitments come before meeting a guy off the internet. A little too agressive for me..Nice talking to you
....here she deletes me (only me) so she can look at how I will react. She had a clingy guy in her life that stocked her and now facing long prison sentance, so I know she's testing me for neediness. :yes:
ME: Not hostile. I don't like being taken for granted.
ME: I don't like being taken for granted... You agreed for a tea at your place and now you saying no. That's not nice.
HER: I don't take anybody for granted, and sorry you feel that way. I have two children I have to take care of when I get home. I can't just act as if they don't exist to have you over for coffee. You have to understand that.
HER: I agreed, but never on an exact date. I already had plans tonight, and no sitter today, sorry. I don't like my children around when I meet guys. it's just the way it is.
^^^^twice because communication problems, internet related
ME: It's tea, no way I'm drinking coffee in the evening.
HER: LOL..tea..sorry
ME: What's up with you deleting me?
HER: My friends list is f*%$#ing up. I tried moving it around and three people got deleted..so sorry
ME: NO. Only I got deleted. Not three people. So don't give me that, ok.
If you like me, let's meet, have some tea, and talk about it
HER: LOL..seriously...about the tea. I have to work on a sitter. i told you Saturday i have one, but you have to understand I don't like my children meeting the men I talk to. Not in the early stages anyway
ME: I have plans for Saturday. Pick a date next week, like Monday, or Tuesday, or Wednesday. When you are free, have a sitter, and everything is in order for you, LOL. Then let me know. . . I don't usually do this, but since you have kids, I'll give you another chance.
Now, we gonna boogie next week on Tuesday, at her place. Tea. :rockon: Sure I'll bring some vine with me, box of condoms in the car, and two in my wallet. :yes:
She might say no, of course, but that will be her loss. Not only am I gonna get a date, but I'm also setting the frame of a relationship that I want to have with her. . . if she can get qualified.
