Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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what would you fellow DJs do

Donkevin

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Hello fello Djs!
I have a bit of a dilema going on at work and i would really appreciate any advice or feedback in response to me current situation :)

I just started working at a new Cafe, been 2 weeks now, I tend to be a very happy and social guy that makes people laugh most of the time and because of that, most of the staff, girls and guys tend to crowd/hang around and laugh at me every now and then, which i dont mind at all, i even have a few girls at work call me cutie/sweety and i pick up on them eyeballing me most of the time and they tend to kino me every now and then when they come close to me.

Anyway im very happy, nothing to complain about and I get all the work done quick aswell haha, except when the manager(unexperienced/New) called me today to tell me my shift hours and also had a 5 minute whinged about how chatty I am(which i dont believe its true just my ability to get most people to laugh and have a good time thats all) at work and she has cut my working hours aswell down to one shift a week, that im not happy about.

Hence i have never had this problem in any of my other jobs, i've only been complimented by my previous bosses about my bubbly personality and great customer/staff relations and praised for my great work due to my hands on skills and i get along very well with everyone.

I am not about to change my personality because of this, I keep everyone happy at work but obviously the manager has some sh*t stuck up her f**king A** (shes only 20 btw and plain ugly b*tch).Now What would you fellow DJs do/say if you were in this situation
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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everywomanshero

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Ya man the last post pretty such summed it up, not much more I can say after that. I would go back to her and discuss what specific problems she is seeing. If you cannot easily work something out with her, then it's probably best to go somewhere that will appreciate your people skills. You could make one last ditch effort to go over her head if you cannot work out a compromise with her, but you'd still need to talk with her first to find out what her specific complaint is, I mean if all she has on you is that you talk to customers, I'm not sure that is going to fly with the big boss, but if she claims you're interefering with employees, then you're going to have to have some defense.
 

Donkevin

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Yeah true true!, I'm at the tills talking to customers aswell, most of them crack a laugh or two with me, thanks for the comments guys, very valueble advice for me, and yes i will have a chat with her to discuss what her deal is, if im not happy then im outta there lol, not to mention she has crap people skills aswell, but i guess thats not her fault aswell coz she has no idea haha, we DJs are blessed with people skills, if not we will eventually obtain it soon, great insite guys! appreciate heaps :)
 
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