"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What would you do?

What would you have done in Joe's situation?

  • I'd have done what Joe did

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  • knocked the thugs out

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SAYNO

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Pulled this off another forum!

"I saw a really good movie the other day entitled Passer By. It was a very thought-provoking drama that dealt with something that we rarely see in movies - a study into the apparent weakness and indifference displayed throughout by the leading male character.

At the start of the movie there's an interesting dilemma presented. Joe Keyes, played by James Nesbitt, is a fortyish radiographer of average height and build who is travelling home from work late one night on a train. The only other person in his carriage is an attractive thirtyish woman.

The train stops at a station and a pair of young white men in their twenties, both well-dressed, and both of average height and build get onto the train. One of them in particular is quite drunk and is rather loud and talkative. At first he's rather jovial, exchanging barbs with both Joe and the lady. He brags about how fast he can send text messages on his mobile phone and offers to demonstrate this to the lady.

However, she reads it as a ploy by him to get her mobile number and doesn't play along. The banter continues in a reasonably pleasant manner with the intoxicated young man seemingly trying to hit on the young woman. But she isn't overly impressed with him and soon he starts becoming more aggressive in his words. His friend also becomes less friendly towards the woman.

Joe says "come on, fellas", in an attempt to smooth over the worsening atmosphere in the train, but the drunken young man verbally snaps at Joe. Just then it's Joe's train stop and as he prepares to get off the train, the drunken young man moves onto the seat next to the woman and his friend also moves in closer to her.

The woman sees that Joe is about to get off the train and looks over anxiously at him and says "please". She fears for her safety and doesn't want Joe to get off the train. But Joe is tired and wants to get home and he doesn't seem to believe the two young men might be a serious threat to the woman and that they're probably just being a bit drunk and boisterous. He tells the lady to just press the emergiency help button if she needs to and he steps off the train.

What do you honestly think you would have done if you were in Joe's situation? Would you have been more assertive in protecting the woman? Would you have been prepared to physically take on two drunken young thugs in the closed confines of a train carriage? What if they were armed? Would you have risked your own person to save a strange woman from potentially being attacked?

Would you have stayed on the train with the woman when she asked? Or would you have suggested that she get off the train at the station with you? Or would you have done what Joe did? Would you have done something else? Have your say."



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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Skel

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I'd have suggested the woman get off at that station and sleep at my house on the couch. Of course she wouldnt actually sleep on the couch
 

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I would have simply pressed the emergency button, activated the emergency feature on my mobile phone, and stayed on the train.

Not sure how trains in the US work, but over here once you press the emergency button, the driver generally scans all the security monitors, checks the problem, and knows exactly what's going on. Ironically the most dangerous part of train travel is getting off at the station.
 

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I would also suggest she gets off at the station with me. But Joe should have tried to divert the drunks attention from the woman, first, before they advanced. A little c0ckblocking I would say. Once they found something else to think about besides "sweet young girlflesh" (not my saying :crackup: !) they could calm down. Maybe. Drunks are kinda unpredictable like that. One minute they could be in one state of mind, and then all of a sudden change. Too many unknown variables to take a risk like letting her stay on the train. I couldn't live with the guilt if something did happen because of my apathy. So she gets off the train, with me.
 

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Thanks for the comments guys.



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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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